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By May 9, 2016 - 6:39pm

Hi, I just joined this group. I found out a week ago that my husband had touched my daughter, who's 9, on her private areas. I instantly loathed him, kicked him out of the house, called my pastor and child services. I am thoroughly disgusted and my heart breaks for my daughter. There is one more interview for her before her counseling sessions start. This is horrifying. I don't know how to feel, what to do, I feel lost and lonely. Sorry if this conversation isn't appropriate for this group, I just know I need to vent. I don't know who I should tell this to. Thanks for listening

By HERWriter Guide May 10, 2016 - 5:17am

Hi amyp16


Thanks so much for reaching out to us. I am truly sorry for what has happened, especially for your daughter.  Your husband - her father - has now stamped her spirit with something that won't go away.  But with counseling, she really will feel better and how she feels right now will end. 

You might think about counseling for you too - when our child hurts, we hurt.  We are also in pain.  So please talk to your pastor about your own feelings. 


I'm very proud of you for kicking him out and getting the law involved.  He needs prison time for what he did, I hope he gets it.  


Amy, your whole life has just imploded on you.  Now it's left to you to restart your lief with your daughter.  I highly recommend you find a support group with you.  Social services can help you with that.  

Do you have a trusted friend or relative you can talk to?  Please do so, when you are ready.  


Things will get better, I promise.  One day you will look back on this horrible time and be glad it's over and that you and your daughter coped with it and moved on.  It's a much-used (and abused) saying but it's true - children really ARE very resilient.  While this will also be a negative time for her, your daughter will go on with life and have a great life, despite this horrendous abuse at the hands of her own father. 

Remember you're doing all the right things and being the best mother you can be.  You are protective and very proactive in making this better.  Give yourself a pat on the back for that, you're doing such a great job despite your inner turmoil.  

Please stay in touch with us and we'll always been a sounding board here for you when you need us.




May 10, 2016 - 5:17am

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