i dont know but i feel real weird
I deal with anxiety all the time.. I don't want medical attention to seek out my anxiety i don't want to be dependent on medication. I learned drinking caffeine makes it worst so i quit drinking caffeine. I feel like people are staring at me when i'm in public places so i learned how to distract myself with something. When i'm at work.. I feel the same and it makes it a little harder when i'm a cashier and have to stay on my register. But i deal through it. what is the best way or solution to deal with anxiety when you are in a work environment?
I was 30 when I finally told my mom about it but she acted like she didnt care and told me to never tell my dad because he might hurt the man and get in trouble. She said she didnt want to lose my dad to jail so I shouldnt tell him.
I was in therapy for a while but I had a bad therapist. i ended up doing her bookkeeping for her company and for her husbands trucking company and when I said I didnt want to do that anymore, she refused to see me and wouldnt even take my calls anymore. So I dont know about trusting anyone again.
As for couples therapy, I cant find anyone that would do it that we can afford :(
My parents are very negative and selfish people. As far back as I can remember I was told that they wish they had never had children. My father was upset that I wasnt a boy. He taught me to do all the boy things. We went fishing and camping and played sports, but when I was 11 we were supposed to go on a fishing trip and I wanted to go the mall instead. He never asked me to do anything with him again. Ever. My father always made it clear that I was an inconvenience to him. I remember as a small child I would run to greet him as he came in the door from work and he would scream at me to be quiet and leave him alone because he hated his job and needed to relax. Then he would go fall asleep in the chair for the night. I was also molested by a family friend and I knew had nowhere to go for help so I let it continue for a few years. It stopped when I was 9 or 10. I felt like I was no good anymore again. I thought it was because I was fat.The only thing I remember my father saying all the time was about my weight. I was overweight and he would talk about it alot. I tried to make him pay attention to me by misbehaving because at least that way he was yelling at me so he knew I was alive. That behavior continued and got me into alot of trouble as a teen. They sent me away. I got pregnant at 17. My parents paid the man to marry me. I lived in a verbally, psychologically and physically abusive relationship for over 10 years. I had 2 wonderful children. Now i am remarried and my current husband is just starting to seek therapy. We have alot in common as far as our childhoods go. he was also sexually molested and a child. He tends to try to block people out sometimes so he is getting help to try and deal with his emotions. I hope that will help our communication.
Somedays are ok and some days I just feel so lost
You brought a tear to my eye to read what you wrote! I'm really sorry to hear that you are having such a hard time. Its people like you that I would love to help. I may be a little too late to give advice but I will give my advice. I read what another person commented. Telling yourself every morning powerful important words of widsom to push you through the day. I read that you stay at home most of the time on the computer. Have you tried to volunteer? Go to church and maybe join a group at church? (Not sure if your religious) Doing something to stay busy and make yourself feel good. Maybe even a work out? Just dont feel bad about yourself!! Keep trying and you can overcome it!
I have had anxiety since I was in highschool. I am 25 now and still have anxiety quite bad sometimes. It happens everyday. I still havent gotten over it. I try to talk myself out of it by telling myself Its not me, I'm just thinking too much. lol But I feel better once I'm in the situation and realize its really not as bad as I made it out to be. Life is short and there isnt much time to be anxious about everything. Too bad I cant practice what I preach... I guess I just think everyone is judging everything about me and I just want to be liked everywhere I go and understood in everything I do or say. But thats what makes us individuals, right? I am also very sensitive. Like things my boyfriend says or comments on. I take everything to heart and am too serious sometimes. I need to lighten up a little bit but I have a hard time doing so. I just went on and on.. sorry.
Well here I am with an update. I'm falling apart. My parents were here to visit and as usual they left me with feelings of worthlessness and hopelessness. I was never good enough for them and here I am almost 40 and still trying to please them to no avail. My husband still isn't supportive of me but he is finally seeing a therapist for himself so maybe things will get better for him and he will act more caring. I don't have a whole of hope for much anymore. I eat Xanax like they are candy so I can function...well not function, maybe so i don't have to feel anything..so I don't hurt. I just don't feel like I can take much more hurt. My kids are almost all grown. Nobody needs me anymore and I have always been a people pleaser and i don't know what to do now. I am so sad and so scared. I really wish I had someone to talk to.
Hey everyone -
After reading other posts, I feel compelled to share a little of my story. I have dealt with anxiety all my life (I'm 21 now), mostly social anxiety but also general anxiety. I finally got help this past Feb. and I have come so far and my life is changing for the better. Anxiety is such a viscious mental disease and I promise you, there is a way to overcome it - whether its biological or experience based.
Probably the best piece of advice I have (besides getting professional help) is to start your day off my reading ALOUD a list of positive affirmations. Words are powerful, and it gives the strength I need to push through anxiety instead of letting it overpower me and keep me from living the life I want and deserve.
To JBunny: You have been through so much - I can feel your frustration and it breaks my heart that you feel so low and probably empty. I promise you that there is a piece of you that is not lonliness, not depression, not any disorder, and not anxiety - it's the perfect you that doesn't need fixing. You just need to find it. It sounds like you have different experiences than me, but I know what it feels like to have no support. Like I said, start your day with simple positive affirmations and then dare yourself to make better decisions for your life. You'll make progress and you will realize one day that you feel safe and happy in your own skin and will be able to have healthier (perhaps new) relationships in your life. So start today - tell yourself how pretty you are - even if you don't feel it. Do something spontaneous - even if others think you are silly. Do something nice for someone else - and let the goodness in the act fill you instead of regret, lonliness, and self-hate. Keep a picture of yourself as a child somewhere you can see it frequently - and everytime you see it remind yourself that the little girl in the picture deserves all the happiness in the world - and then start giving it to her. Loving yourself is healing.
Hi. I guess I dont know where else to go to talk about what I go through. I have read all the other posts and it looks like I am not alone, although that is how i feel most of the time. I am a 37y/o stay at home mom. Not that my kids need me anymore, the oldest left last year and the baby is 14. I am DID, and being primary I also have OCD, and bipolar disorder. So my life is a total train wreck. I am afraid of everything. I havent held a job for more than a few months EVER. and I have only had about 7 jobs. I am now on disability. I sit at home on my computer all day long and really do nothing other than research new things to learn about and subsequently be afraid of. I have a very low self esteem and that effects everything i do. I live in misery most of the time unless I am manic ( which is exhausting ) I have been on most all of the anti depressants out there but they made me suicidal. I have attempted more than once. I was seeming to get better over the last few years and then in July of 2010 my world started to unravel. In June my oldest left to join the Army and then in July my Grandmother passed away. She was the only person that I knew for sure loved me in this world. I just cant seem to recover from the loss. I have been mean and angry and stressed out on top of all my regular over the top anxiety. I feel like my marriage is falling apart because he doesn't understand what I am going through. I feel so hopeless....I don't want to feel alone anymore. I need to know that someone else understands me...
The way that I was brought up is to suck it up and smile! But I can't do that anymore. I love doing things for people, helping out, making people happy. It's when they take me for granted that I get angry.I don't like being used and that's the way it makes me feel. I don't use people. I think it's wrong. I try to remember everybody's birthday, but all I get is ...is it your birthday? Well, happy birthday.
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