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hello is any one dealing with anxiety like me please respond

By January 18, 2011 - 7:12pm

i dont know but i feel real weird

By August 19, 2011 - 4:27pm

Thanks Susan

August 19, 2011 - 4:27pm
By HERWriter Guide August 19, 2011 - 7:18am

Hi Kyra

Thanks for your post!

I agree that trying other methods first rather than going straight for medication is a good idea.

Have you considered meditation as a method to cope? This method has an enormously calming and centering effect on people and although it can be hard to get into, give it a couple of weeks and you may find a huge difference in how you feel.

Here is an article on how meditation can and does help: http://www.empowher.com/holistic-health/content/20-reasons-meditation-good-health

Kyra, let me know what you think!

August 19, 2011 - 7:18am
By August 18, 2011 - 10:07am

I deal with anxiety all the time.. I don't want medical attention to seek out my anxiety i don't want to be dependent on medication. I learned drinking caffeine makes it worst so i quit drinking caffeine. I feel like people are staring at me when i'm in public places so i learned how to distract myself with something. When i'm at work.. I feel the same and it makes it a little harder when i'm a cashier and have to stay on my register. But i deal through it. what is the best way or solution to deal with anxiety when you are in a work environment?

August 18, 2011 - 10:07am
By August 17, 2011 - 8:10am

I was 30 when I finally told my mom about it but she acted like she didnt care and told me to never tell my dad because he might hurt the man and get in trouble. She said she didnt want to lose my dad to jail so I shouldnt tell him.
I was in therapy for a while but I had a bad therapist. i ended up doing her bookkeeping for her company and for her husbands trucking company and when I said I didnt want to do that anymore, she refused to see me and wouldnt even take my calls anymore. So I dont know about trusting anyone again.
As for couples therapy, I cant find anyone that would do it that we can afford :(

August 17, 2011 - 8:10am
By HERWriter Guide August 14, 2011 - 4:13pm

Hi JBunny

It sounds like your childhood was horrific and you were an incidental in your parents lives, rather than the center of it. Realize that you were a wonderful child, you simply had really bad parents. Even if they really didn't want to be parents, you should have grown up with no knowledge of that and I am so sorry about how you were treated. Your molestation was a crime in every sense of the word. Do your parents know about that?

I'm glad your husband is in therapy - you need therapy for what happened in your childhood, I'm not sure you're yet in a position where you can put it behind you, and remember that it's very normal for that to take a long time.

Do you plan on joining him in couples therapy?


August 14, 2011 - 4:13pm
By August 8, 2011 - 10:42am

My parents are very negative and selfish people. As far back as I can remember I was told that they wish they had never had children. My father was upset that I wasnt a boy. He taught me to do all the boy things. We went fishing and camping and played sports, but when I was 11 we were supposed to go on a fishing trip and I wanted to go the mall instead. He never asked me to do anything with him again. Ever. My father always made it clear that I was an inconvenience to him. I remember as a small child I would run to greet him as he came in the door from work and he would scream at me to be quiet and leave him alone because he hated his job and needed to relax. Then he would go fall asleep in the chair for the night. I was also molested by a family friend and I knew had nowhere to go for help so I let it continue for a few years. It stopped when I was 9 or 10. I felt like I was no good anymore again. I thought it was because I was fat.The only thing I remember my father saying all the time was about my weight. I was overweight and he would talk about it alot. I tried to make him pay attention to me by misbehaving because at least that way he was yelling at me so he knew I was alive. That behavior continued and got me into alot of trouble as a teen. They sent me away. I got pregnant at 17. My parents paid the man to marry me. I lived in a verbally, psychologically and physically abusive relationship for over 10 years. I had 2 wonderful children. Now i am remarried and my current husband is just starting to seek therapy. We have alot in common as far as our childhoods go. he was also sexually molested and a child. He tends to try to block people out sometimes so he is getting help to try and deal with his emotions. I hope that will help our communication.
Somedays are ok and some days I just feel so lost

August 8, 2011 - 10:42am
By August 8, 2011 - 8:18am

to JBunny-
You brought a tear to my eye to read what you wrote! I'm really sorry to hear that you are having such a hard time. Its people like you that I would love to help. I may be a little too late to give advice but I will give my advice. I read what another person commented. Telling yourself every morning powerful important words of widsom to push you through the day. I read that you stay at home most of the time on the computer. Have you tried to volunteer? Go to church and maybe join a group at church? (Not sure if your religious) Doing something to stay busy and make yourself feel good. Maybe even a work out? Just dont feel bad about yourself!! Keep trying and you can overcome it!

August 8, 2011 - 8:18am
By August 8, 2011 - 8:07am

I have had anxiety since I was in highschool. I am 25 now and still have anxiety quite bad sometimes. It happens everyday. I still havent gotten over it. I try to talk myself out of it by telling myself Its not me, I'm just thinking too much. lol But I feel better once I'm in the situation and realize its really not as bad as I made it out to be. Life is short and there isnt much time to be anxious about everything. Too bad I cant practice what I preach... I guess I just think everyone is judging everything about me and I just want to be liked everywhere I go and understood in everything I do or say. But thats what makes us individuals, right? I am also very sensitive. Like things my boyfriend says or comments on. I take everything to heart and am too serious sometimes. I need to lighten up a little bit but I have a hard time doing so. I just went on and on.. sorry.

August 8, 2011 - 8:07am
By HERWriter Guide August 7, 2011 - 9:46am

Hi JBunny

Thank you for your update, I'm sorry things are still so difficult for you.

But there are some good things happening - your husband is in therapy and your parents have gone home.

When you say they put you down, can you tell us how? I hope you know that you have every right to tell them to stop their abuse (and it IS abuse) especially under your own roof. As a child, you couldn't stop their behavior but as an adult you certainly can. I know it's hard to stop the parent/child dynamic at any age but you need to be strong and adult about it and refuse to allow their abuse in your own home.

May I ask what triggered your husband to start therapy?


August 7, 2011 - 9:46am
By August 1, 2011 - 9:44pm

Well here I am with an update. I'm falling apart. My parents were here to visit and as usual they left me with feelings of worthlessness and hopelessness. I was never good enough for them and here I am almost 40 and still trying to please them to no avail. My husband still isn't supportive of me but he is finally seeing a therapist for himself so maybe things will get better for him and he will act more caring. I don't have a whole of hope for much anymore. I eat Xanax like they are candy so I can function...well not function, maybe so i don't have to feel anything..so I don't hurt. I just don't feel like I can take much more hurt. My kids are almost all grown. Nobody needs me anymore and I have always been a people pleaser and i don't know what to do now. I am so sad and so scared. I really wish I had someone to talk to.

August 1, 2011 - 9:44pm

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