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Do you have Borderline Personality Disorder?

By HERWriter Guide January 20, 2011 - 12:22pm

If you have this diagnosis, we'd love to hear from you!

How has BPD affected your job/relationships? What are your symptoms? Are you looking for support or resources? Please let us know, we're help to help.

We look forward to hearing your stories,

By December 20, 2011 - 9:06am

No prob. It is so difficult spending so much of our lives misunderstood. Glad I could help!!!!

December 20, 2011 - 9:06am
By December 20, 2011 - 8:02am

I had little bruises. Now they are bigger bruises. I have found bruises are easier to explain away. I don't care much for holidays. Any holidays. I like getting things for others but as far as what I feel that I get out of holidays?? Only the joy of what I've given. Holidays are always a HUGE stress for me.

We will be going to FL soon. We are Snowbirds. I can handle that. What I completely resent is being expeced to do what I DON'T like/WANT to do!! What is "expected of me!!!! I am 54. But I MUST play shuffleboard with 60 and 70 and 80 year olds. Some act either the same or worse then the students I used to teach. I explained it to Bob last year. He agreed I didn't have to play. I didn't play and neither did he and he sat around the camper all depressed all morning!! So it does not take a brain scientist to guess what I did every Monday after that!!!!

Bob goes fishing. He goes almost everyday and is gone about 4 to 6 hours!!!!....and I am left alone. I know this will not make sense. But when Bob leaves, no one ever visits me. I walk our 2 dogs, people will talk to me, I stop and visit people....even a lady I consider a GREAT friend....but I have seen her ride past our camper on her bicycle!! She doesn't even stop to say HI!!!! And I am outside.

I like being alone. BUT I want and need friends. This will be my SIXTH year there!!!!! I like solitary activities....counted cross-stitching, reading, things like that. People just don't "get" me or understand me due to my BP and BPD and OCB...........I really do try not to care so I don't feel hurt. To be truly honest?? I am hurt and feel very resentful. I have tried so hard to make friends there. It just doesn't work. SCREW them ALL.

December 20, 2011 - 8:02am
By December 20, 2011 - 9:22am

We need the choice to delete. I posted the same thing twice by accident and I have spent more time trying to get rid of the extra post than it took me to write it!!!!

December 20, 2011 - 9:22am
By December 14, 2011 - 1:45pm

Thanks Tedebear. It is really hard to find support. I'm new to this site trying to find support. It's a little hard to navigate this site. There aren't many resources in my community to help people. The few that there are not in safe neighborhoods or I'm not eligible to apart of.

I need to learn more coping skills to deal with this though. I struggle with a lot of compulsive thinking and have identity issues.

December 14, 2011 - 1:45pm
By HERWriter Guide December 11, 2011 - 10:00am

Oh I am sorry about that, tedebear.

Taking the step into therapy can be hard enough but when you have all these waiting times and people not getting back to you.

I do encourage you to try again though - if you liked this therapist, it might be worth one more shot. What do you think?


December 11, 2011 - 10:00am
By December 10, 2011 - 6:07pm

Hi!! I completelly understand how you feel. What kind of job did you have?? I was an elem. School Teacher and I lost my job AND my teaching liscense in this fricking state simply due to ignorance!! I heart goes out to you!! But you can ALWAYS feel free to speak here. We can not help you get your jobs back, but we will listen and offer you plenty of support!!!! We are always here to listen. BPD is NOT fun and it is NOT understood!!!!
Hugs to you poeticprincess88!!!!!!! ;-)


December 10, 2011 - 6:07pm
By December 10, 2011 - 5:08pm

BPD is one of my many diagnosis. I can't hold down a job in fact I haven't worked in almost 4 years. I feel pretty down on myself about it. I just started setting goals. I have a lot of compulsive behaviors and thinking that it just breaks me down. i'm barely functioning as a person some days.

December 10, 2011 - 5:08pm
By December 3, 2011 - 5:36pm

Yes. I have found a wonderful man. Bob has BP without BPD so he understands and puts up with me. I tried to seek treatment. I didn't like the meds Dr. I liked the therapist. I saw her once for the "intake". My next appointment was canceled to the next day. Then the next day the therapist herself called me up, she worked at some ukky clinic, and apologized for having to cancel again. She told me I would have to call the main desk to get a new appointment. Well, since I had to wait for OVER a month since the intake for my real first appointment, I never called.

December 3, 2011 - 5:36pm
By December 3, 2011 - 9:51am

Thank you Susan. I really, really try to stay as positive as possible you really have to at least try to be because BPD is an exhausting negative personality disorder and really have to constantly trying to surround yourself with positivity. Its not easy to say the least and I have had more moments than I would like to have had that were unsuccessful but I think the key is is to keep hope and never ever stop working on yourself and fighting against this disorder and never give up and when you slip up you will get back up just don't let it define you or defeat you.

December 3, 2011 - 9:51am
By HERWriter Guide December 3, 2011 - 9:01am

Hi tedebear

I'm very sorry your life is so difficult with this illness.

Are you in treatment now? Are you living with family or do you have support at home?


December 3, 2011 - 9:01am

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Borderline personality disorder (BPD) is a personality disorder described as a prolonged disturbance of personality function in a person (generally over the age of eighteen years, although it is also found in adolescents), characterized by depth and variability of moods. The disorder typically involves unusual levels of instability in mood; black and white thinking, or splitting; the disorder often manifests itself in idealization and devaluation episodes, as well as chaotic and unstable interpersonal relationships, self-image, identity, and behavior; as well as a disturbance in the individual's sense of self. In extreme cases, this disturbance in the sense of self can lead to periods of dissociation. BPD splitting includes a switch between idealizing and demonizing others. This, combined with mood disturbances, can undermine relationships with family, friends, and co-workers. BPD disturbances also may include self-harm. Without treatment, symptoms may worsen, leading (in extreme cases) to suicide attempts.


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