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Holidays are here! is that good or just stress of more work?

By December 8, 2012 - 8:35am

How do you handle trying to do all the holiday stuff with out ending up in bed or worse back in the hospital? I tend to do a lot of shopping on line and just have it mailed to people.
But part i get sad about is that I live far ...to short to fly and too long to drive. Plus, this year, my father's brother just passed who he was close with...my sister who has been having Christmas at her house sent me email saying she is going to hang our with her neighbors again. So now my parents are going to be all alone. My sister in law and her adult daughters normally spend Christmas Day with our family....this year one is going back to MN with her bf and other will be at her husband's family but it is in the same city . So normally she spends part with us / part with his family. Than their mom...really just is not going anywhere maybe her bf's who has family in Hawaii or i think she would go have it with her dad who most likely will not be here next year..think all of them should do that...but they never want to see that bad things are possible or coming. Made me sad...i feel bad for my mother...no she won't come up here too far for them to drive.
So...how do you handle all that family let down stuff?

By December 9, 2012 - 8:52pm

Not sure if it will help...i just read on another Lupus support site and young woman with SLE has family members, literally physically abusing her! Not like siblings since she is not all alone except for extended family. All of them sound like they are jealous of her for accomplishing so much while still being sick. Her mother and sister both have died...father disappeared when she was young.
I know my family can flip /flop, be the nicest than other times just wonder how they can be the same people! But none of them go around physically hurting one another.
How do you help? I did my best but just so sad...this year it just seems in my life that many people are alone, I wish I could take them all in and make us one big family! thanks for your support! i do appreciate it more than you know!!

December 9, 2012 - 8:52pm
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By Anonymous December 9, 2012 - 7:24pm
Hi siskiyou, Thanks for sharing this information. Am sure this will very helpful to many, through the same problems during the holidays. Best, DaisyDecember 9, 2012 - 7:24pm

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