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By December 16, 2010 - 10:16am

i have 2 little kids and im always tired.
i started taking antidepressants a few weeks ago and still feel depressed but hopeful. it has gotten somewhat better than it used to be... but i feel drugged up now
soo soo tired
and to top it off, my husband comes home late and wants me to be awake when he comes home, which i understand.
I am ready to go to sleep at 8:00 though and he comes home at 10.....
ive been waiting up for him for the last few nights but im so tired during the day, my mind is numb...
im trying to look for a job and spend hours sending out resumes and interviewing but im too tired to do it effectively...
how can i get the rest i need while making my husband feel important and loved? i love him more than anything in this world and our relationship is the most important thing to me.

thanks for ur help,

By November 27, 2012 - 9:08pm

I am also very tired. I sleep all night and have no energy and want to nap during the day and feeling very withdrawn I have been suffering from chemical depression (which is imbalance of chemicals in the brain) for many years now, have been taking Zoloft which had helped in the past but the last year or 2 I feel it isn't working. I have increased the doses to 150gm, and thinking of increasing it too 200. Maybe my tiredness has nothing to do with my depression???? Have had blood tests and they always come back normal.

November 27, 2012 - 9:08pm
By October 26, 2011 - 3:22pm

HI - I am a holistic doctor, and have seen a lot of women and people in my 16 years of practice who suffer from fatigue. One problem is there are many many reasons you might be fatigued. Another problem is that most doctors will say, once your blood tests have been found to be normal, that there's nothing wrong with you. That is incorrect. There are many problems that can cause fatigue in people with normal blood tests. For one thing, blood tests can be wrong, though doctors can't go doing duplicate blood tests on everyone.
Here are the conditions I've seen as the most common cause of fatigue:
- Food allergy, most often to wheat or sugar. Some women who stop these foods altogether get their life back in a month.
-Hypothyroidism: blood tests aren't always reliable for this, plus doctors assume that a normal result means your thyroid is normal. In fact, if your TSH is at the upper end of normal, you may be hypothyroid. And, don't rely on other tests: TSH is the most important.
-Magnesium deficiency: taking magnesium supplements can really help.
-Yes, depression can cause fatigue. But, fatigue can cause depression, too.
-Sometimes you'll hear about adrenal fatigue syndrome. While this is real, it has become a trendy fad on the internet and among some holistic practitioners. Adrenal Fatigue is another way of saying you're really, really exhausted.
-Poor sleep, including sleep apnea.
-Lifestyle, like the scheduling issues Lisa mentioned.
- a chronic viral infection - kind of like having a little bit of the flu, all the time. This will often show up with some flu-like symptoms: aches and a slight feverish feeling.

Also, this sounds overly simplistic, but sometimes people need naps, and don't take them, or believe they shouldn't. I'm not saying this would help in your case.

Prolife, your symptoms aren't normal. Sleeping 12 hours per day and still being tired isn't right. If your doctor says you're fine, I suggest you seek a second, and if necessary, third and fourth opinions.

Best of Health,
Daniel Heller

October 26, 2011 - 3:22pm
By September 16, 2011 - 1:02am

I am also so very tired. I am 55, educated, and like many people, unemployed. I am tired all day, every day. I have been to my doctor but always hear the same thing, you are anemic although it is not caused from your iron levels nor a B12 deficiency. The cause is unknown. I get frustrated because why stop there? My thought is, do what it takes to find out why, don't just say you don't know and send me on my way. That is why I don't like going to the doctor, just another test that "looks normal". I sleep about 12 hours per night and am still tired during the day. It seems easy to say, you need to cut back on sleep, but it is very difficult and when I try to get up earlier it makes it worse during the day. If anyone has any suggestions, please help me. I want to enjoy life again. Thank you.

September 16, 2011 - 1:02am
By December 21, 2010 - 4:12am

Hi cuki,

I am sorry to hear you are feeling so tired but that could be a normal reaction to the medication you are taking. It does take 2 - 4 weeks for your body to get used to the chemicals and for your system to feel a bit more upbeat.

But it sounds like your daily routine isn't helping either. You are trying to get work, look after two small children and be supportive to your husband. I think it is great that you want to do all of this, but I wonder where you get the chance to have some "ME" time - time for you to rest, read a book or do something that you really enjoy. If you can find just 20 minutes a day to do something you love, for yourself, that will help both your depression and your tiredness.

Another thing is to possibly have what I call a "nana nap". When my children were small I used to put them to bed for a rest in the afternoon for about an hour or so. (Not too long or they won't go to bed at night). Is it possible for you to do this and then catch an hours rest/sleep yourself during at the same time? Then you might feel better about staying up at night to wait for your husband.

I do think that it is good that you think your relationship is the most important thing to you; but you are the most important thing to you. If you are not happy, or if you are not getting enough food, sleep and the other basics of life, then you can't keep giving support to your husband and children. Taking care of yourself is one of the greatest gifts you can give your family, so try and take a bit of time to do that too, okay?

All the best
Lisa :)

December 21, 2010 - 4:12am

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