Rosa Cabrera RN
December 6, 2010 - 2:08pm
Many expectant moms can be hesitant to hire a Doula because the dad-to-be doesn't quite know enough about the role of a Doula and may think that the Doula is there to replace him. The fact is that a Doula will never replace a father and can actually be there as a form of support for the father-to-be as well as the expectant mother.
A trained Doula can help guide a father who wants to be active during his wife's labor by providing him with reassurance, support, and guidance. She can ensure that the father has enough pillows after helping coach his wife for hours and ensure that the new parents have privacy by asking that the nurse and staff visits to the room are limited after a certain time.
For labors that can become prolonged, the Doula's presence can allow the father to take guilt free breaks-- whether it's a snack, a short nap, or just to go outside for a breathe of fresh air.
Then there are also dads who would like to just experience the birth without the pressure to have to perform himself. The doula can provide full support to the mother while allowing the father to take the back seat.
Whatever your preference is, the mother, father, and doula should all have a seat and discuss the parents wants and needs. The process of hiring a doula is a process that should also involve the father since this is a special moment for both of their lives.