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Doulas and Dads

By December 6, 2010 - 2:08pm

Many expectant moms can be hesitant to hire a Doula because the dad-to-be doesn't quite know enough about the role of a Doula and may think that the Doula is there to replace him. The fact is that a Doula will never replace a father and can actually be there as a form of support for the father-to-be as well as the expectant mother.

A trained Doula can help guide a father who wants to be active during his wife's labor by providing him with reassurance, support, and guidance. She can ensure that the father has enough pillows after helping coach his wife for hours and ensure that the new parents have privacy by asking that the nurse and staff visits to the room are limited after a certain time.

For labors that can become prolonged, the Doula's presence can allow the father to take guilt free breaks-- whether it's a snack, a short nap, or just to go outside for a breathe of fresh air.

Then there are also dads who would like to just experience the birth without the pressure to have to perform himself. The doula can provide full support to the mother while allowing the father to take the back seat.

Whatever your preference is, the mother, father, and doula should all have a seat and discuss the parents wants and needs. The process of hiring a doula is a process that should also involve the father since this is a special moment for both of their lives.


By January 28, 2011 - 12:39am

Working as a Postpartum Doula I find that many dads are very happy to have a Doula around, whether it be a Labor Doula or Postpartum Doula. the Labor Doula actually helps teach the dad how to support his wife or partner at the time of the birth. She encourages him and gives him the confidence that he needs to be able to play a supporting role.
I personally have had dads ask me to teach them how to diaper, bath and swaddle the new baby. Dads are very receptive in learning techniques that will help soothe the baby. Dads usually ask more questions than the mommy's.

January 28, 2011 - 12:39am

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The word "doula" comes from the ancient Greek meaning "a woman who serves" and is now used to refer to a trained and experienced professional who provides continuous physical, emotional and informational support to the mother before, during and just after birth; or who provides emotional and practical support during the postpartum period. If you are a doula, interested in hiring a doula, or want more information on the role of a doula... Please join us!


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