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husband who can't forget past

By August 30, 2013 - 8:01pm

my husband found out a friend of mine used to be a love interest , but not from me. There is no longer a relationship with my friend, but my husband is still upset. It is causing conflict in our relationship, what should I do?

By HERWriter Guide September 4, 2013 - 9:16am

Hi confusedinlove,

While it might have been a good idea to have told your husband this beforehand (full disclosure and all that), we all have pasts - your husband included! And we don't all eliminate romantic interests when the romance ends. Sometimes a friendship emerges.

I wonder why your husband is angry (and he is). Is it because you are still friends with this man or is it because you didn't tell him about your previous relationship with him? This will make a huge difference in how to approach things.

If it's the former, then it's probably a maturity issue with him and his own lack of trust in others. He may need to just accept this and move on, as long as you are not spending too much time with this friend and one on one time should be avoided.

But if he is upset because you never told him that you used to be involved with this man sexually, I think he may have some merit in his feelings. Why did you never tell him?

Please let us know more about your situation and we're very happy to chat further!


September 4, 2013 - 9:16am

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