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When did menopause start for you?

By HERWriter Guide July 31, 2010 - 5:25am

I'm not near the stage yet but I know she's a comin' at some stage! Based on the women in my family, I'm about 15 years away from menopause but one never knows.

I wonder how old other women were when menopause began and what were the first signs that this part of life had begun?


By HERWriter Guide April 6, 2012 - 5:19pm

Hi KissKalena7

I'm sorry this has happened so early to you in life.

But there are many ways to keep your weight healthy. You can start here: http://www.empowher.com/menopause/content/controlling-post-menopausal-weight-gain

I hope this helps!


April 6, 2012 - 5:19pm
By April 1, 2012 - 3:38pm


I has been thyroid diease when i born my baby, my doctor told me,you will have failure malfunction ovary in the future. I was 28 year old and has hypothryoidism for long time, right now, end up I found it out I was 42, perimenopause because i has go thru awful hot flash, hard time to sleep and everything blow me out. I went doctor and say its perimenopause and say its depand on 3 to 15 years between depand on, now I just officially menopause im 44 now no more hot flash and everything back normal . I remembered that day during perimenopause and cause my hair fall off lot and was something wrong with my hair. now more thinner hair.. My doctor recommend me to do is every day exercise and regular food so far I did but sometime YOYO weight I cannot deal with weight problem. can you tell me some how to stay stable with my weight:((
my age is too early but now menopause :(

April 1, 2012 - 3:38pm
By HERWriter Guide January 15, 2012 - 5:18pm

Hi wasunflowers

Thanks for your post and I'm sorry you've been going through so much at such a young age, since menopause starts about the age of 52, on average.

A women is generally considered finished with menopause when she hasn't had her period for one year but I think it's a good idea to get a full evaluation from your GYN now so that if you are not in menopause, she or he can check into what's going on.

Your symptoms are indicative of menopause but this should be investigated. Please keep is updated and I do hope you get some help. I had severe hot flashes after I had my first child and was absolutely miserable and had to change clothes and sheets a couple of times every night so I understand your misery and I hope that you can get this resolved. 



January 15, 2012 - 5:18pm
By January 8, 2012 - 7:25pm

At age 48, I think I may have come to the path of menopause, few more months will be 49. Only change I have noticed at time is the flow of my periods and I just dread when they do decided to show up...they come every month still or close to every 30 days. My period only last 3 days but go through a whole box of tampons because my flow is that heavy. I'm so wiped out for that entire 3 days and then some. That period just takes everything out of me and just can't wait till the day comes that I don't get them at all. I'm not sure if some of my depression is linked to this suppose could be possible. I did get little concerned last month when I passed huge blood clots with my period then read up on menopause and it said this can be common with a heavy flow. No hot flashes yet and some of story's read here that sorta spooking me out. Won't have a choice but to deal with whatever comes my way.

January 8, 2012 - 7:25pm
By November 6, 2011 - 1:24pm

Yes, it does sound like menopause.  I would strongly encourage you to see a physician.  Your symptoms sound pretty severe with painful intercourse and bleeding.

Your vaginal walls could be thinning.  That is common for many women.  I don't know if this would be of any value to you, but I use testosterone pellets for achy joints and pain. 

Testosterone is a natural anti-inflammatory.  It is also a substrate for estrogen (your body produces estrogen from testosterone....among other things) which adds more estrogen back into your body.

One of the pleasant side-effects of testosterone is that it increases the libido (WOW!!), helps with vaginal dryness and builds tissue....all of which can benefit you if you are experiencing paint, dryness and bleeding during intercourse.

I understand you're on a lot of pain meds for your back (I also have bad back pain in the same area), but, you would be doing yourself a huge favor by seeing a physician who can help you balance your hormones.



November 6, 2011 - 1:24pm
By November 6, 2011 - 9:19am

Sure-I have a gyn appt coming up soon. Will try to remember to let you know!

November 6, 2011 - 9:19am
By HERWriter Guide November 6, 2011 - 7:17am

Hi wasunflowers

Thanks for your post!

Your symptoms do sound like you have entered Menopause although at 38, that's a very young start. Talk to your doctor about this and perhaps have your hormones tested and talk about possible treatments. You shouldn't be in this kind of discomfort, especially when you don't even have a diagnosis yet. You need to know what you're working with.

Will you talk to your doctor and give us an update?



November 6, 2011 - 7:17am
By October 29, 2011 - 11:09am

I was thrusted into menopause when I had serious pneumonia & was hospitalized for 3 weeks. That was in Oct. 2009. Before that, I had many symptoms, but was still having a period ea. month. I haven't had a period since & still haven't talked to my GYN because I haven't gone in to see her. That's because I also have severe advanced DDD in my L5-S1/S2 & I'm on alot of meds due to that. I still get the hot flashes, mood swings, and it hurts to have sex. Last time I tried to have sex, I bled a bit, & it hurt bad. So I thought, oh boy, my period is back. But by the next day, I wasn't bleeding anymore. My primary doc has given me a slew of herbals to take, but not taking them due to taking so many other Rx's. I do have some serious hot flashes, have gained serious weight and am easily fatigued. Does this all sound like menoupause to anyone? By the way, I was only 38 when this all began.
Thank you!

October 29, 2011 - 11:09am
By October 27, 2011 - 8:11am

I love the strength and clarity of mind that comes with menopause, Connie.....it just gives you a boldness doesn't it?

I wish we could have this kind of tenacity of life during our younger years. But then, I guess that's what those years are for.....figuring out who you are and then standing by it. :)

October 27, 2011 - 8:11am
By October 21, 2011 - 1:03pm

Not sure when it really began, but know when I went into full fledged menopause. That was about three years ago. I do remember about 18 years ago asking a doctor about the signs, symptoms, etc and he just handed me a brochure. The we tried HRT, ewwwww. Did not make it past the first week. That is when I began asking and researching.

In the last three years I have found only a couple of reliable resources on menopause. One fills in the blanks, like dry vagina, leaky bladder, stomach discomfort, digestion, itchy skin that is not due to dryness, hair falling out, fatigue, and all those other wonderful changes women get to go through. :)

Now I embrace the change, took a crones year away, well a year and half, to rest and get comfortable with me. I use nature, safe supplements, and my house is toxin free. No brand is safe with me, it is not a resident in my house. Cleaners, detergents, skin care, all of it is gone. Because those ingredients effect your mood and health.

I love being a crone. I wear it proudly. I am in year 3 or 4 now.


October 21, 2011 - 1:03pm

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