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Feeling scared because of threatening by cycber abuse

By February 12, 2014 - 8:50pm

I am a 25th years old girl and I am working as a pharmacist and studying diploma in Business Management.
Few days earlier, I was been threatened by someone I don't know. That person got most of my profile pictures and name from facebook and then used them as a slide show in front of other porn video. And upload that video on porn website. One of my colleagues saw it first and told me that someone uploaded that video on that site. I'm so shocked and afraid when I know about that at fist. And I am still scared now and I was crying all day yesterday . And still wondering who did that to me and why do that person want to destroy my dignity? I even don't have any idea and I always treat people fairly and friendly. But, now I am so scared and don't know what to do. But luckily, all the people around me trust me and they know what kind of person I always am. They are so angrily by my side.
So, all I need now is all of your encourages for me. I share about this because I don't want that happen again to all of the girls and don't want all of you scared like me now. And I want to tell you all of the girls and ladies, please be careful on cyber and please don't trust anyone.

By HERWriter Guide April 26, 2014 - 7:59am

Hi Smilie

I'm glad you have people to talk to! 

I think it's perfectly fine to tell people that you don't want to discuss certain aspects of your life. If they can respect that then they'll make good friends. If they can't and you feel they are asking you things for gossip value rather than out of genuine concern, then cutting them out of your life is a good idea. 


April 26, 2014 - 7:59am
By April 1, 2014 - 6:48am

Hi Susan,

Sorry for late reply, Susan because I went to a short trip to relax my mind and head.

I have no idea who did this to me. Yes, I did. I've told one of my teachers all about my story and suprisingly, she said she also had been bullied like me in her young age. And she said don't be afraid and be strong.She also said whoever wanna let me down are the jealous type and they did that to me cuz I'm above of them. I suddenly feel that I'm not alone on this kind of situation and you know what..it's really make my worry and scary mind calm down.

Moreover, I just found out some inspiring stories on thinkpositive.com and one of its stories inspires me to move on because you only live once,right? And I wanna share that story to all of the ladies like me out there as per following;

Pls read this small story; Hope that makes a BIG change in YOU

The Professor began his class by holding up a glass with some water in it. He held it up for all to see & asked the students “How much do you think this glass weighs?”

’50gms!’….. ’100gms!’ …..’125gms’ …the students answered.
“I really don’t know unless I weigh it,” said the professor, “but, my question is:
What would happen if I held it up like this for a few minutes?”
‘Nothing’ …..the students said.
‘Ok what would happen if I held it up like this for an hour?’ the professor asked.
‘Your arm would begin to ache’ said one of the student
“You’re right, now what would happen if I held it for a day?”
“Your arm could go numb; you might have severe muscle stress & paralysis & have to go to hospital for sure!”
….. Ventured another student & all the students laughed
“Very good.
But during all this, did the weight of the glass change?” Asked the professor.
‘No’…. Was the answer.
“Then what caused the arm ache & the muscle stress?”
The students were puzzled.
“What should I do now to come out of pain?” asked professor again.
“Put the glass down!” said one of the students
“Exactly!” said the professor.
Life’s problems are something like this.
Hold it for a few minutes in your head & they seem OK.
Think of them for a long time & they begin to ache.
Hold it even longer & they begin to paralyze you. You will not be able to do anything.

It’s important to think of the challenges or problems in your life, But EVEN MORE IMPORTANT is to ‘PUT THEM DOWN’ at the end of every day before you go to sleep…
That way, you are not stressed, you wake up every day fresh &strong & can handle any issue, any challenge that comes your way!

So, when you start your day today, Remember friend to ‘PUT THE GLASS DOWN TODAY! ‘

Now, I try to train myself to be stronger and to have more confidence and to believe in myself. I wish all ladies out there could have those stronger mind and make a big change in their lives.

Wish you all the best,Susan! Please keep in touch.

With best wishes,

April 1, 2014 - 6:48am
By HERWriter Guide March 24, 2014 - 8:29am

Hi Smilie

You need to talk to authorites at school about this. It sounds like one person, or a couple of people are deliberately trying to intimidate and harrass you.  It might be simply for their own sick amusement - unfortunately there are people out there who find this stuff funny; meanwhile it's frightening for their target. 

Do you have any idea of who this person/people may be?

We hope to hear back from you very soon-


March 24, 2014 - 8:29am
By March 22, 2014 - 7:01am

OMG!!! Susan....someone scratched my name with pen on attendant sheet at the class this afternoon. My hands were trembling when I saw someone did that to me. :( I don't know what to do now and I am so scared right now.

March 22, 2014 - 7:01am
By March 18, 2014 - 6:45pm

Thank you so much, Susan!

Yes, I have my friends I can talk with. But,all of them are working and we rarely meet since we've got our jobs. But hey, I have my EmpowerHER family, right? Moreover, I would like to ask you a few advice.
Some people who know me called me and asked me about that after they saw that stupid video. Since I've tried to forget and keep those abuse away, I really don't want to talk about that to those people over and over again. Because it makes me remind of bad memory and those scary and confusion overwhelm me again. So, could you please give me some advice how to avoid those things? Should I block all the phone numbers except the most important numbers ? Should I change my contact numbers? How should I do to keep those people away from me?

Thank you so much again for your birthday wish for me. I really appriciate it, Susan.

Best wishes,

March 18, 2014 - 6:45pm
By HERWriter Guide March 18, 2014 - 11:32am

Happy belated birthday Smilie! 

I am sorry you feel so alone; is there anyone you can talk to face to face?


March 18, 2014 - 11:32am
By March 17, 2014 - 9:38pm

Sometimes, I feel so weak because I've been bearing strongly so long. I just wish I could disappear sometimes.....Susan

Actually, it's my birthday today. But, I even can't be happy on my birthday because of those bad things. Those things are running in my head over and over again sometimes.I am feeling a mixture of scared and sad. I think I've got depression now cuz of my period. But, I try to be strong and won't let my tears down on my birthday. :'(

Wish you all are with me right now,Susan.

March 17, 2014 - 9:38pm
By HERWriter Guide March 11, 2014 - 9:48am

I am so glad you are feeling better about things, Smiley! 

I think you made a good decision by deactivating FB for a while - that will keep the abuse away. Make sure if you reactivate that your settings are strictly private. You can go into your privacy account and do this. 

I'm glad you know that we are always here for you! 


March 11, 2014 - 9:48am
By March 10, 2014 - 6:46am

Dear Susan ,

Thank you so much for your support. I really appreciate it.

At first, I was so scared and didn't know what to do. All I did was crying all day and thinking about why did those people do this to me? We even didn't know each other and why they did those things to me purposely. So many thoughts were running through my minds and I can't stop them. I had so many tough days though.

But, I am doing great and things are getting better now. I finally gain my strength back because of all the good people around me including all of you who are supporting me and trusting in me no matter what. You all are like my family. I have now deactivated my facebook account for a while and try to ignore those things and those kind of people. Whatever they did to try and make me down, depress, scared and destroy my life, I won't let them do to me anymore. Cuz I gain my smile and confidence back cuz of all of you. I try to be strong and you all are my strength now.

Thanks again for your support and worrying for me, Susan. Pls,keep in touch and I will update you how things are going with me, too. I am so happy and glad that I have found my truely family and that's EmpoewerHER is my family now.

Best wishes,

March 10, 2014 - 6:46am
By HERWriter Guide March 4, 2014 - 3:07pm

Hi smile girl

I'm sorry this has happened to you. 

Strangers can and do hack into various accounts, from Twitter, to Facebook to Pinterest and more. And they often link to pornographic sites or fish for financial information. 

Change your passwords and keep them secure. Never, ever respond to anyone doing this. 

How are things now? Are you being left alone?



March 4, 2014 - 3:07pm

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