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By HERWriter Guide November 19, 2010 - 3:55pm

It just occured to me as I am 40 - and getting used to the ridiculous stereotypes attached - that I am turning 41 next month! How dare I !

But I have to say what a fantastic year it has been and on the few occasions someone has said "what's age are you....do you mind me asking?" I say "I'm 40, baby!" and proud of it!

Anyone else embracing these years or having a bit of difficulity?


By HERWriter Guide November 16, 2012 - 11:19am

Great questions, Coloradogirl!

At 42, I'm awash with work, marriage, kids (ages 6, 7 and 8) and everything in between. I still have "me time" by training in and competing in tennis which keeps me fit and happy. I know things will slow down in about 15 years but I'll fill my time up again with other things (including tennis, I sometimes play against some women in their 70 who are still pretty damn good!).

I want to be me in 20 years, just doing some different things and enjoying my adult children and still being with my husband. But I won't if I don't stay healthy (physically and mentally) and I have learned in the past few years that both are equally important.

Congrats on adoption - a beautiful thing.


November 16, 2012 - 11:19am
By HERWriter Guide November 16, 2012 - 11:15am

Welcome Candylynn Marie


This group is for anyone from 40 to 104!

It's good to know you are doing well and embracing your middle years.


November 16, 2012 - 11:15am
By November 14, 2012 - 2:23pm

Hi Ladies, my name is Candylynn Marie, and I am 51yrs old, and I have been 40, well let's just say years ago, more less like 10 yrs ago.. and I thought that being 50 would so totally ruin my life.. I know that I am getting better with age, sometimes alot wiser than I was at 40yrs old, I did know something, but just enough to get through to my next age.. I think that i am as good as fine wine, better with age... I intend to live my life to the fullest , enjoy my days, not let anything or anybody ruin my day or my life.. just celebrate who I am ! Btw I started on here Bipolar women club

November 14, 2012 - 2:23pm
By November 7, 2012 - 7:00pm

Okay girls I the new kid on the block! Followed Susan here, always a wise idea. ;)
Kids, I had my son at the age 40. Having him was a conscious & intentional choice to bring new life and experiences to my life by adopting a boy and his mom. While our marriage did not survive my recovery with alcohol (I was 3 months sober when she decided to leave...) I did gain a wonderful son and his mother is a great woman for raising a terrific man (he's 28 now).
So yes carpools & team snacks are in my rearview mirror, I have not let go of reaching for the stars and soaring with eagles. Life is about changes, and it is how we manage and embrace those changes the keeps away: "Mediocrity is the bain of a person's existance. "
So if you are in your 40's, hang on because the ride to your '60's is "lickety split"!
My question, will you be younger at 60 than you are at 40?
Some of us are... most are not. Whom will you choose to be by living your life, fully?

November 7, 2012 - 7:00pm
By HERWriter Guide April 13, 2011 - 12:12pm

Happy Birthday to our HerWriter and Moderator Christine who is 40 today! Welcome to our lovely little club!

April 13, 2011 - 12:12pm
By April 13, 2011 - 11:54am

hi everyone and welcome to our new members, thank you for joining our group, i havent been around for a while but i am back and better than ever, I have been dealing with some family crisies, but they are all solved now, hope everyone is happy, healthy and enjoying life as we go through our 40"s, this part of our lives is so important and significant because we see and do what the heck we want lol ( within moderation of course) and we get to say exactly what we mean. Be Blessed everyone.

April 13, 2011 - 11:54am
By HERWriter Guide April 12, 2011 - 7:56am

Hi Lauren and welcome!

Sounds like you have a great job - what are "upcycled" handbags - I haven't heard that term before!

I hope you're enjoying this part of you life and feel free to post anytime!

April 12, 2011 - 7:56am
By April 11, 2011 - 5:58pm

Hi my name is Lauren (a.k.a. Startrelle). I just joined the group today. I am 47 years old living in Los Angeles and self-employed as a Fashion Designer currently developing a line of upcycled high-end handbags. I hope to get the opportunity to meet you all.

April 11, 2011 - 5:58pm
By HERWriter Guide December 16, 2010 - 10:53am

Great point, Redeemed.

Mediocrity is the bain of a person's existance. While ups and downs can be a bit much for us, I think I'd prefer it over a medicore life. We all like a bit of consistancy but "beige" is not a color that should be forefront in our lives and mediocrity stinks of "beige"!!

December 16, 2010 - 10:53am
By December 16, 2010 - 9:41am

Thats the spirit jsweetlady, we have to embrace life, (we only have one) its a lot of ups and downs but its hours and how we live it is up to us. Being able to see where we went wrong or what we could have done better are best left in the box, never to be taken out again, as i say no regrets, i am contented with what i have got (not settling for mediocrity) but embracing the real happenings in my life, the family and friends i adore, the women i have met on empower, learning knew things and above all starting this new relationship and seeing where it takes me. Be Blessed All

December 16, 2010 - 9:41am

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