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By December 14, 2010 - 10:34am

Hello I don't get moist during sex. A little help ladies

By HERWriter Guide January 21, 2011 - 3:24pm

Hi Redeemed

Unless medically indicated, there are only pros for getting it on again!

You may find that you need more lubricant (and foreplay) due to your hysterectomy and also don't forget to always use condoms; STDs aren't just for the kids!

I also think you'll be a lot more demanding of men in terms of their quality. It's amazing how as we grow older, we become more confident and raise our standards high when it comes to relationship. We leave the drama to the 20 somethings!

Be open to talking to men, and to developing a physical relationship. As I said, as long as your health issues don't cause any risk - it's a pretty good time to get out there and enjoy the company of a quality man.

Good luck and keep us posted! Those of us married can live vicariously through you and your fun dating stories (hopefully no nightmares!)


January 21, 2011 - 3:24pm
By January 18, 2011 - 8:58am

Hi ladies hope all is well and everyone one is enjoying the start of a hectic New Year, i am asking this question, i know being 40+ has no limitations but i have not been sexually active since 2002 (lol) and i have someone and i am kinda scared lol, being that i am diabetic and hypertensive and also i had a hysterectomy, what are the pros and cons of getting back being sexually active at this time and the changes in the reproductive system of my body.

January 18, 2011 - 8:58am
By HERWriter Guide January 6, 2011 - 9:11am

Hi jsweetlady

Try vaginal inserts instead of lubricant from a container. You place them inside before sex and they melt with your body heat and are far less likely to be messy. You can buy them over the internet if you like some privacy.

Good luck!

January 6, 2011 - 9:11am
By December 14, 2010 - 1:25pm

Oh I do use the lube but it sure can get messy , I am in my early 50 also and fully menopausal, I get moist once in a while and the next 20 times I must use a lube. I too wish it was treated.
Thank You.

December 14, 2010 - 1:25pm
By December 14, 2010 - 11:27am

One word: lube! It's effective, easily available and safe! Just be sure to use a vaginal lubricant as opposed to something like Vaseline - you definitely don't want petroleum products "down there". I understand that dryness is very common during peri-menopause. I am 50 and fully menopausal now and have had to make lubricant a regular feature in my sex life as there just isn't any natural moisture happening any more! I wish all my menopausal issues were as easily treated!

December 14, 2010 - 11:27am

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