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By August 24, 2010 - 11:35am

I'm not turning 40 until next year, but already feel like I'm supposed to act older or be different somehow. What's really different for the "over 40" set?

By December 24, 2010 - 9:02am

Merry Christmas and a bright and healthy forty-something New Year to everyone, glad we are having the best years of our life and enjoying it immensly, what i wish for myself, i wish for everyone here, and also keep loving yourselves and families and friends and be true to who you are always. Be Blessed.

December 24, 2010 - 9:02am
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December 24, 2010 - 8:17am
By HERWriter Guide December 23, 2010 - 10:34am

Hi Ladies

I have several female relatives who say that if they could pick one decade that was the best of their lives (they are all hitting the 80 mark about now) that they would pick their 40s. They said all the b.s. was left behind and they were still young and vibrant to enjoy it all! This isn't to say that we hit a wall in our 50s or beyond but as someone who is 40, I love hearing this. I also think that our 40s set us up for the rest of our lives. Mentally/emotionally, I think it may be in the Top 3 of the most important decades we will see.

Here's to 40s and beyond!

December 23, 2010 - 10:34am
By December 22, 2010 - 8:13am

Hi Lisa, Thanks for being here. I'm like you but a decade behind, and did my mentally-abusive relationships before the children. Isn't it peculiar the things we put ourselves through? Glad you seem to have come out on the right side, and are moving forward in a positive way. You sound so alive and fresh--that can be 50!! I agree it keeps getting better. Onward and upward! :)

December 22, 2010 - 8:13am
By December 21, 2010 - 1:31pm

My 50th is next September and it will be the only birthday party I will ever have - I can't wait. But it is thanks to my 40s that I feel this way - like celebrating life. I spent my 20's having children; my 30's in two really really abusive relationships and it is only in my 40's that I have become a writer, a true wife to a loving husband, a mother my kids can be proud of and a grandmother :) So for me the 40's has been the best of all; but I can't wait to see what the 50's hold for me!!

December 21, 2010 - 1:31pm
By December 13, 2010 - 9:03am

you go girl christine, why lie about our ages, it is what it is and thats the truth, lol, everyone also asks why do you tell everone that you are 46, well i am and proud, also battlescars to prove it and ashleesc1970. you are not the only one i have been asking God repeatedly for patience with my fellow humans, Be blessed all live life to the fullest.

December 13, 2010 - 9:03am
By December 12, 2010 - 9:19pm

I turned 40 last year.......the biggest thing I noticed was the lack of tollerance I now have.

December 12, 2010 - 9:19pm
By December 10, 2010 - 8:49am

I had an experience at the gym yesterday in a group fitness class that made me chuckle. A young woman with her mom was talking to one of the buff men who was our group leader. She purred, "I'm going to be 30 next April...". She then seemed dismayed by this, so I chimed in, "I'm going to be 40 next April!" They all turned to look at me in surprise. "You're going to be 40??" they all seemed to say in unison. "I assumed you were in your early 30s," the group leader added.

What is 40 supposed to look like? I am not the type to lie about my age. I've earned every year on this Earth, with scars to prove it. I do love getting that reaction when people are surprised at how old I am. :)

December 10, 2010 - 8:49am
By HERWriter Guide December 9, 2010 - 2:17pm

I think you make some great points, cbensonhunt!

Although I notice more and more than the former status of women "kids are older by the time we're in our 40s" is less and less. My friends and I are all in our 40s (ok, well, 40!) and have kids still in diapers and pull-ups so breathing time is less than for those who used to be done having babies by their late 20s.

At the same time,however, I think having toddlers and kindergartners at this age keeps us young - it has to!

And I so agree with you, I'm surprised at how quickly I've stopped caring what people think of me (at least acquaintances and definitely strangers). It seems almost an over-night thing. Maybe Mother Nature bestows this gift on us as we enter our 5th decade!
(Good lord, did I say "5th decade"?) Yikes! :)

December 9, 2010 - 2:17pm
By December 9, 2010 - 1:10pm

Life in the 40's is definitely liberating..for instance, I think we can finally stop saying..."when I grow up I want to be?", and actually be content we are living that...and on the other hand if you're still "growing" (which I hope we never do in our journey), we can also be content in that new chapter of our life. For me, the 40's means, I no longer put so much importance on what people "think of me" or the need "to please everyone". I know how to say "no" to requests (though kindly) instead of over-extending myself by being "yes mom". The flip side of this newfound independence is that many of my friends in their middle 40's find themselves re-evaluating their marriages and lifestyles and making drastic changes. I think this is partly due to the fact that when children grow somewhat older and more independent we start to have some extra time which would normally have been spent multi-tasking so many things during our day of balancing work/motherhood, there was simply no time to think about relationships or at least examine them with a fine tooth comb. Subtle hints of "unhappiness" or "discontent" become a little closer to the surface and they seem to approach them in different ways..such as "Do I change my life?" "Does anyone else have the same feelings?" Indeed, I think many do, it's just not something we are willing to open up and actually talk about. What do you think?

December 9, 2010 - 1:10pm

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