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I was raped by my ex husband

By itsjustme October 6, 2012 - 3:47am

My ex husband and I split up over 3 years ago (I broke it off with him). He threatened that If I took my daughter he'd hunt me down and kill me. He took me daughter 2500 miles away from me to live with his parents. I would make trips when I could to see her BUT as a stipulation to my visiting my child, I was required to have sex with him whenever he wished. Usually on two occasions per trip he would call me and tell me that "we needed to talk". That was code for " we are going to a motel and you are going to have sex with me". It wasn't generic sex either. It was rough, hateful, sex where he'd slap my face and tell me to call myself a whore. It was horrible, but he told me if I refused, he would take my daughter and I'd never see her again. At the time, I was unsure if this was rape. It felt like rape, if feeling violated, humiliated, mixed with indescribable hurt and anger while someone is having sex with you who KNOWS that you do not want to be there let alone be having sex with them. He would tell me things like it turned him on knowing that he was pretty much forcing me to have sex with him.....it disgusts me. I had nightmares at least once a week for 2 years. Its not as much now. 2 years after the last incident and only just found out for certain that this was rape. And I am only just now starting the legal process. I don't think the law enforcement are taking me seriously though. I was told weeks ago that someone would be calling me. I have yet to hear from them. I feel lost

By Gerri Detweiler July 8, 2013 - 11:56pm

Last year I broke up with my girlfriend due to many misunderstandings and I remember very well how hard I had been fighting to get her back. She changed her number, changed her job so that I don’t visit her office and none of her friends would give me any information about her. The only thing I could do was to go find help from anywhere, so i looked for a way to get her back then a friend recommended me to contact [email protected] that he will help me and as my friend said, dr.marnish helped me to bring back my girlfriend just in 3 days, I now have her back and this is the biggest joy of my life
Gerri Detweiler

July 8, 2013 - 11:56pm

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By Anonymous October 6, 2012 - 2:54pm

I can't really tell you alot, but I hope you get justice. The ex is seriously messed up. Was your ex important or have a job that would make him less likely to be seen as a rapist? And many won't believe you since you waited so long; it's always better to report it as soon as possible. Your ex had no control over you so he tried to take away the most important thing to you... your child. Well, he really couldn't do anything about killing you or anything since you could have recorded it or filed for sole custody saying your ex was a maniac. He sounds like that.
My "uncle" is the same way... he was cheated on by my aunt(mom's sister) and he eventually become violent and he has done cruel things to her. but she stays with him out of guilt. I wish you the best of luck with this journey. Do not let him rule your life. Look for happiness and make the bastard see that you're stronger than him;which you are.
When I made my decision to tell my mom, I had gone to this site and talked to a worker on it..... made me understand what I was risking and benefits. I reccomend you to talk to someone on this website.. It can't be traced back to you or get your name as long as you dont give it to them.

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October 6, 2012 - 2:54pm