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my husband is currently cheating

By May 4, 2015 - 4:38pm

I know I'm not perfect but I have been a good enough wife to my husband. We have been together for 6 years and married for almost 3.He takes care of me financially but I feel like there isn't genuine love there. He has cheated on me basically the whole time weve been together smh. recently I ran into a convo he was having with his ex where they basically agreed to have sex. She has a child with him.She has never liked me, and I have tried being cordial with her.But this one time I lost my cool and cussed that bitch out! and when he found out that I knew what was going on he flipped it all on me and said I went looking for something so I found it smh. The hoe had the nerve to tell me that he married me by default and how he keeps fcking her and how if I was a good wife then he wouldn't be after her. Plus things that he has said about me. He acts like im his enemy or something. Ive cried for a long time,I have left him 3 times in the past and I feel like when I leave this time its for good. He makes me turn into an angry person and all this infront of our child. I don't get how he claims to love me but has not one ounce 0f respect. He even has other females texting him good morning but I cant even get asked how my day was at work. They miss you when you're gone!!! I just wish he would grow up,like me and love me genuinely. I feel like he never gave us a chance cause he wants to have everyone at the same time. Lately I just play the good wife and act like nothing ever happened. Whenever I try to talk to him he gets upset and starts yelling smh. Ive done nothing but love him and respect him. Up to to this day he never apologized to me. Let it had been me and I would have been every name in the damn book. Im at the point where I just give up!!! I love myself way too much for someone to dog me this way knowing that I never deserved it

By May 27, 2015 - 12:18am

You don't have any need to bear this pain and seriously think about breaking this abusive relationship. You have a whole life ahead of you and your should think about moving on. This man can't be loyal to any woman, mark my words. So think about it rationally and make a strong decision.

May 27, 2015 - 12:18am
By HERWriter Guide May 14, 2015 - 3:45pm

Hi slim13

Thanks for your Share. 

I agree - your self-esteem is good and you don't have to live like this. Your husband's affairs are appalling and his treatment of you is certainly not love.

The best thing you can do is be the grown up here (and it sounds like you are) by removing you and your child from this abuse and moving on. Get visitation and support in order and as much evidence as you can, in case of divorce.

Men like this love their lives as they are - the wife, the child and as many women as they can have. Don't blame the women he is with or his ex - don't waste your energy. Your agreement and your promises and commitments were all with your husband, and no-one else.  He is the one who broke all the promises and the blame is squarely on him. It's understandable to want to lash out at everyone but that gets exhausting. Keep things in perspective and focus on you and your child. 

Good luck and keep us updated,


May 14, 2015 - 3:45pm

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