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Do I continue to date my boyfriend who I have sex with if I move out? Or try to be strong ...

By November 24, 2010 - 5:16pm

I live with my boyfriend and his parents. since feb 2010 I have lived with them except the month of aug I moved out, but everyday of aug I saw my boyfriend. He parents treat me like crap like I have stayed past my welcome. If I move out I can't come back. Since may2010 I have regular sex with my boyfriend. sometimes its b/c we are both happy and want it, other times i have sex just to deal with the problems I'm going through. I can't tell if I'm happy with the relationship I have with my boyfriend. I'm not sure what to do, or how to change? My mentor invited me to move in with her, she has helped me through lots of things. The one thing we have never talked about is sex and I don't think she wants to. If I move out, what if I still see my boyfriend and still have sex? Will that ruin my relationship with my mentor? Should I still be dating my boyfriend? I know I need change just not sure what to do.

By December 8, 2010 - 1:39pm

I feel that it's probably best if you end the relationship completely, as it sounds like it's really not going anywhere. If you sever the ties and free yourself up, then perhaps something much better will come along. Sex is one of the biggest attachments and it's hard to give up. You can most likely do more for yourself in that department than your ex-boyfriend ; ) ~ read this article on Enjoying a Great Sex Life With OR Without a Partner: http://www.oceanusnaturals.com/blog/enjoy-a-great-sex-life-with-or-without-a-partner/

December 8, 2010 - 1:39pm
By HERWriter Guide November 30, 2010 - 3:53pm

Hi mytastus

Thanks for your question.

Unfortunately your questions are so cryptic that it's hard to help you. Mentor for what? Why would she care if you have a sexual relationship with your boyfriend? If she not a qualified therapist, then talking to you about sex may not be her place and she may know that but doesn't know how to tell you. Moving in with her may not be such a good idea, perhaps?

Don't complicate things unnecessarily. How old are you? You can get a job and move into your own place (or have a room-mate or two, this can really help with financing and can making living independently really affordable.)

If you are not sure if you are happy in your relationship (and since you have been living under his parents roof for nearly a year, then I agree that it's time to move on) and are also worried about your relationship with your mentor, then living independently is a good option. You will be able so see things more clearly and get a better perspective on things. It sounds like you have a lot on your plate so take things slowly and think about your own move.

Also, I have talked to you about therapy so I do hope you think about that; it'll do you the world of good and a professional perspective on things may be exactly what you need.

I hope this helps,

November 30, 2010 - 3:53pm

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