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By October 3, 2013 - 1:49pm

I m gonna get married soon.but I have a fear of having sex.I think of it as dirty n not good.I aso dont have any idea of how to do it,dirty talks,dirty positions,undress him or myself,how to start n all other thingsetc etc.Pls help me

By November 5, 2013 - 9:48pm

I believe Wanderlust is right you should seek a therapist help, but they can only help soo much, you have to help them help you. It's a 50/50 thing trust me I went through all of that because of fear of sex as I was also well....you know....years of it...and I have gotten over it. Not just with help from the therapist, but with my boyfriend's help as well. I believe you should let your fiance know it will help out quite a lot more than a therapist. As soon as you get into it with your future husband everything will click right in (because sex is not just a one person thing) from what to do to relaxing and letting yourself feel the warmth and love from your husband. I hope you get through this fear and begin to enjoy what God gave us to enjoy.

November 5, 2013 - 9:48pm
By October 26, 2013 - 5:22am

I had the same experiance. I have managed to overcame the fear by reading books and watching videos.

The below video was helpful to me
Now I am enjoying SEX.

I wish you all the best.

October 26, 2013 - 5:22am
By October 14, 2013 - 3:03pm

It's easy to become fearful of sex - it is the single most vulnerable, intimate pacts between two people. It's also a lot of fun if you can get past that thing that's getting in your way. My advise? Talk to a therapist. There's likely something deeply rooted that's affecting you. To add further stress, there's pop culture which further muddies the image of what defines 'good' sex. As someone who was molested as a child and could never quite 'get there' until my 30's when I met the right person, I get this fear. I also want to tell you that there's hope. Explore yourself with a counselor. Explore yourself with your hand or a vibrator. Don't stop looking for the answer. Once the fear goes away, you'll be left with one of most amazing gifts of our bodies - the orgasm! good luck...

October 14, 2013 - 3:03pm

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