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finding time with boyfriend with busy schedule

By September 11, 2012 - 8:04pm

i already have depression and abandonment issues and it has already affected my relationship.its been three years and were still rocky cause of my arguing.he's been there alot for me but its put a strain on a relationship. and now he has a very demanding, time consuming job. mine is consuming but not as much as his. hes reached his limit of frustration and hes trying but its hard. hes really independent.
one day i would like to marry him.
im lost when it comes to being in relationships and i need some help please.
because i cant lose him , hes my best friend and my biggest support , but i cant have any more big arguments cause it affects my depression and anxiety. so im just looking for advice for a more constructive positive way to deal with him

By HERWriter Guide September 23, 2012 - 12:11pm

Hi sakinah

Thanks for your post!

You're right, all these fights aren't good at all for a relationship and it sounds like your lack of confidence and self-esteem and your insecurities could break you both up.

Everyone is busy - husbands and wives often have demanding careers and children on top of it all - some people work 60-70+ hours per week. What we need to do is learn how to cope with the pressures when they come to a head. Don't push this great guy away.

It sounds like you need to work on you - away from him and away from the relationships. You have problems because of stuff that happened long before you met this man and if not taken care of and dealt with, won't be solved and will stay heavily on your shoulders in the future.

Think about seeing a therapist to get yourself sorted out, so that you don't carry these burdens along into the present and your future. A therapist specializing in depression and abandonment issues can help you deal with your past so that these issues can be left in the past.



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