September 3, 2012 - 9:06pm
I have a problem... My husband and I have been married for 8 years. We have 4 children together ranging from 4-8. When we first got together, I was 20 and he was 23. All honestly I was his first,but he was not mine. I had been in 1 real relationship before this. We were together for 6 months before we got married. I have to say we had an execelent sex life. ( i know it was the "newlywed" stage but it was nice). After I had my first child it was a waiting game for the doc to give the ok to go again. We were having sex maybe 3-5 times a week. Well here came child #2. Again, it really didn't phase us. But after my 3rd, I just feel like I have lost everything. I just can never "get in the mood". I have tried to pleasure myself and sometimes it work sometimes it don't. Sometimes he helps, sometimes I do it while hes at work. Him on the other hand, He still has that 3-5 times a wk drive. He could actually go every night if I would go along with it.If he is lucky we have sex 2 times a month. He has came down to begging and trying to "make deals" for foot rubs. I sometimes just give in because I feel bad for not giving it to him.I really don't now what to do. I have talked to my gyno about not having a drive but he told me it was because I have had 4 kids and my body just needs to recoup. Ok its been4 years now shouldn't my body be recouped by now?? I don't know what to do anymore. It has my husdand agravated half the time and me upset that he doesn't understand. We do talk alot... it just do't seem that I am saying the right things for him to understand. Help me please!