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over 45 years old and wants a baby

By February 5, 2013 - 6:49pm

I am 46 yesrs old and want to have a baby with my new boyfriend which never had children. I dont know all the pro and cons. HELP I would like some advice?

By HERWriter Guide February 19, 2013 - 12:11pm

Hi teddy1967

Thanks for your post!

One of the unfortunate downsides of being in one's 40s and dating a man who would like children is that it's not always possible.

If your boyfriend is new, as you mentioned, then having a child with him should perhaps be more seriously considered. To raise a child with a man is a lifetime commitment and knowing him in depth - having a history with him - is important.

But anyway, you are entitled to have a baby with whomever you like! Your odds of conceiving naturally at the age of 46 are very low -  and the risks of miscarriage are quite high (over 50%). The risks of Down Syndrome are also high (1 in 30 babies born to a woman over the age of 45 with have this Syndrome). There are also health issues to consider for the mother, including increased risk of high blood pressure and c-sections.

However! It's not all doom and gloom! Donor eggs are a possibility and it it still possible for you to conceive naturally, although not likely. I hope your boyfriend is supportive of you - having a 46 year old girlfriend and wanting to have a baby with her isn't very realistic. But talk to your doctor as soon as possible and either start fertility treatments as soon as you can, keep having unprotected sex in case you can conceive naturally and adoption is also an option. I wish you the best of luck and if having a baby is what you want, then I know you can find a way to make it happen!



February 19, 2013 - 12:11pm

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