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Who is in Your Life?

By April 27, 2012 - 8:51am

I saw a video today by Marie Forleo. She describes herself as "part business strategist, part marketing maven and part spiritual ass-kicker with a side of hip-hop swagger."

I am sharing her with you because I love her message and her energy.

The more people you hear sharing the same message of choosing happiness, using your gifts and talents, and making this world better than it was when you got here, the more likely you are to listen.

Her video was about letting those who are in your life hold you back from accomplishing your dream life. Watch it here: http://marieforleo.com/2011/05/people-holding/.

It's good to hear someone else say that YOU are the only one who lets other people make you feel anything. You accept those feelings they are trying to project, whether positive or negative. It's the same as choosing to participate, or not!

You can also choose who is in your life, and who stays in your life. You have that power.

Marie and I share the phrase " lead by example." You have to be the change you want to see. You have to be the person you would want to interact with. If you have read my book, you can exponentially have a positive impact on this world by the way your choose to behave and react in every situation. And with awareness comes responsibility.

So, who is in your life? Are there people who you had a relationship with for years, in that old phase of your life, that have not traveled down your new path with you? People who could relate to you when you were miserable, but are judging your new path because it is not comfortable for them, or makes them feel envious?

The reality is that not every relationship is suppose to last forever. In fact, the only relationship that does last for ever is between you and THE BIG GUY.

People drift in and out of our lives all the time. Some stay for quite awhile and some are just passing through.

Relationships, like everything else, have phases of life. A beginning, a middle and an end. Like Marie says, to expect anything to last forever is setting yourself up for failure. And who wants that?

So if you have friends or family members who are having "trouble" with the new you and the new life you are creating for yourself, their time in your life might be coming to an end. And it's OK. Your journeys are naturally growing in different directions.

No one's path is going to look like yours anyway. It's not suppose to. Your journey is as unique as you are. And sometimes you find someone who's path is complimenting to yours and your lives are able to co-exist for quite some time.

But when connections you have had with friends or family start thinning out, don't take it personally. Nothing is suppose to last forever, no matter what we were raised to believe.

Here's where leading by example come in. When your paths take different directions, don't judge that person or their path. Be understanding and accepting. Release them and let them go on their way.

The bottom line is that you have to take responsibility for who is in your life and the effect you are going to allow them to have on you.

Change the way you think about your life. Choose who you are going to spend time with and who you are not.

Be the architect of your success by choosing how you think, how you live, how you behave, and who is in your life.

Until next time,

Happy Living!

Christia Sale

The Most SELFISH Woman in America!

Women's Life After Divorce Expert

By HERWriter Guide April 28, 2012 - 4:05pm

Hi Christia

This is a really interesting take on life after divorce and you are right - people get used to the married 'you' and almost resent the new, divorced 'you' because you are now out of their comfort zone and even if change is good for you, it may not be for them. They find the new you threatening or they may even be a bit envious that you taking control over your own life when they, perhaps, cannot.

And on another token, some newly divorced people really do make some rash and rather crazy decisions that are genuinely worrisome but we're all grownups. Advising someone of your fears is being a friend. Forcing someone to see things you way won't work, however.

I've heard divorce is really hard in terms of "custody" of who gets what friends. I'd like to hear more from others who have gone through that scenario in particular.



April 28, 2012 - 4:05pm

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This group is for fellow Sisters who have survived a rough marriage and even rougher divorce. This is where you will learn how to reassess, reinvent and redirect your life for a positive recovery and reinvention after divorce. You will reacquaint yourself with your true passion and purpose, and live to your full potential. You will become the Leading Lady in your own Life! You will learn how to become SELFISH! Welcome to the SELFISH Woman's Club! Christia Sale The Most SELFISH Woman in America! Women's Life-After-Divorce Expert www/themostselfishwomaninamerica.com


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