I read an article on Parenting.com recently that talked about couples who desperately want a baby and their feelings of jealousy when reading all the kiddie status updates of their friend on Facebook. Most statuses of parents about their children are pretty mundane and delightfully banal “Logan ate all his Cheerios today” to the downright gross “...guess who did a big fat poopy in their potty today????” But Mom or Dad are obviously proud and feel it’s their right to announce to the world every single thing their child does or says (because you know it’s either going to be really witty or really poignant, right?)!
Annoying posts aside, there are also those very real and special milestones like the confirmation of a pregnancy, birth, first teeth, first steps and first birthdays. These create great moments in the lives of parents and grandparents and they naturally want to share their joy. Who can blame them?
Really, nobody. If Facebook or Twitter is your thing then it’s the privilege of every parent to share these happy times with those who choose to be connected to them on social networking websites. Everyone has their moment of thinking “oh dear!” when yet another status oozing of saccharine pops up (and it's okay to gag, some are truly gag-worthy) but one group who find all the baby and children statuses upsetting are those who are dealing with infertility.
Called “Facebook Envy", men and women admit that these upbeat statuses about friends’ children really get them down. And this is not only hard for infertile couples but for those who have had miscarriages, failed adoptions, or worse – stillborns and the death of babies or children.
While it’s easy to recommend simply hiding these updates on Facebook, women have said they still find them on the walls of other friends’ pages and giving up Facebook altogether feels isolating, especially for those with few relatives or friends nearby. According to some parents, there may be some ways to circumvent all the kid news:
• Limit your time on Facebook if you need to. The less you have to see, the better.
• Seek real time with friends in similar positions and lives as you.