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Being independent seems to be the goal of many women now, including myself. Although it’s nearly impossible to be entirely emotionally and financially independent, there are some possible mental and emotional health benefits of being independent in any way. Read below for my insight into mental health benefits and information from other sources.
1) Becoming independent in some way, small or big, can give you a sense of accomplishment if your goal is to become independent. For example, getting a job, paying for your own apartment and car are all steps toward independence. And the goal of being financially independent is clear-cut for the most part – if you’re paying for everything yourself, then you’re financially independent. This can also relieve feelings of guilt and the constant reminder that you owe money to someone. You’re paying for everything yourself, so there is no sense of needing to pay back others (unless you’re in debt or borrowed money). You control your income, so you don’t have to answer to anyone else. You can also be sure to get through hard times if you know how much money you have and are not depending on someone else who might fail. This is true of both depending on parents or spouses. One married woman wrote a blog post on ezinearticles.com about being financially independent and married, saying that financial independence lifts a weight off the shoulders of a spouse. If you’re independent, you don’t have to worry about being a burden to anyone.
2) Being emotionally independent is another story, but it can still be a goal to become less dependent on others for happiness at least. Greater emotional independence can mean less disappointment and suffering, since you’re not depending on other people to meet your emotional needs. Although social support is necessary, it’s different from emotional dependence. You can value other peoples’ company without being emotionally dependent.
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Very good article! I can only think of one benefit to being independent...........Self-esteem! If you are able to support yourself, like your own company, then you have the confidence to live your life........no matter what kind of life you choose to live. I don't get people who hate being alone and always need to be around other people. And while I admit that it took most of my life for me to realize that I had to like myself first, I am so grateful that I finally reached that point in my life. I'm not looking for a partner, but if one comes along...........so be it! If not, I'm just as fine on my own. I'm sure someone will come into my life sooner or later, but I also know he will compliment me, (as I will compliment him) but we will NOT complete each other. And that to me is the best kind of partner to have!
July 5, 2011 - 2:15pmThis Comment