Anger and depression often go hand in hand, just like other moods and emotions.
For example, take the quotes “anger is depression turned inward” and “depression is rage spread thin.” If you think about certain situations in life, it can make sense.
Personally, I remember having a lot of anger in my younger years. In school I was mostly obedient, but at home I would act out. One particular memory comes to mind.
I went on a vacation with my father, sister and some family friends to Las Vegas. This was around the time I was diagnosed with obsessive-compulsive disorder, and later depression, so I was taking different types of medication. I was depressed and angry, and therefore acted out and was punished by not being allowed in the pool when everyone else was.
I remember feeling that no one understood me, and now I think that’s what the main cause of my anger was to begin with, besides family issues. I always felt that no one understood my depression and other mental issues, and my only way of expressing that was through anger and acting out.
With some more years under my belt, I understand anger and acting out was not the best way to get attention for my issues, since it clearly didn’t solve any problems. To this day, I still have not found a fully effective way to make others understand what I’m going through, but I’ve also learned how to deal better with depression overall and any anger that results from that.
I also realize that depression and anger are deeply interconnected, at least for me. The bad reactions I received from expressing my anger would lead to me bottling those angry emotions later on, which would lead to more depression.
Some experts have shed light on how closely depression and anger can be linked, but how they are still separate and distinct.
Paul Hauck, a psychologist and author in Illinois, said anger is the result of a person making a demand and not getting what they want.
Psychological depression results from self-blame, self-pity and pitying others.
He gives the example of losing a job. A person can become depressed thinking about not being able to pay bills and feeling betrayed after being fired.