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Changing yourself in any way is a major challenge, but learning how to be more accepting of others is a skill that can enable you to be a more positive, happy and successful person.
Experts have never-ending advice on how to be more accepting of others. I have included some tips for you to start off the new year right with improved acceptance of others.
Stephanie Somanchi, a work-life effectiveness trainer and executive coach, said in an email that accepting others mainly depends on how you feel about yourself.
“Accepting others begins with accepting ourselves,” Somanchi said. “Usually, the disapproval we feel is a reflection of an inner aspect we reject in ourselves. By focusing on self-approval we gain the strength to do what is best first for ourselves, which then dissolves the need to judge others.”
Liz Friedman, the program director of the organization MotherWoman, said in an email that learning to accept others more will also help women to accept themselves.
She has four strategies that will help you work on your acceptance skills:
1. “Refrain from giving advice and trying to solve the ‘problem.’ We want to help. It's a natural instinct. But often that instinct to help is experienced as criticism. Remember the last time someone gave you advice?”
2. “Just listen. This is the most tremendous gift that we can give anyone. Our listening allows them to think more fully, connect with us more deeply and show us who they are and what their challenges are.”
3. “Remind yourself that every person is doing the very best that they can do under the given circumstances. With support, compassion and encouragement they will be able to act on their best intelligence and seek the support and advice they need.”
4. “Practice, practice, practice. Every moment is a new moment to practice acceptance and non-judgement. Don't criticize yourself for the internal critical voices in your head. We all have been trained in judging others from an early age. It will take time to unlearn this habit.”