Ever have a great idea - an idea so big and grand that, for a split second, it makes the universe feel full of possibility? Maybe it’s an idea for a business you could start, or a dream to spend a year traveling around the world, or a vision that you could be an artist or writer. For just a moment, all limits and rules drop away and it feels as though anything can happen.
I can’t tell you how many times I’ve asked a question like this to someone: “What do you REALLY want to do?” or “If money were no object, how would you spend your time?” And I can’t tell you how many of those times, what follows, in a spontaneous moment of unguarded clarity, is an answer that is so brilliant, so natural and makes so much SENSE.
And just as soon as the idea pops into your mind - BAM!!! The dreaded voice of reason rears its ugly head. It starts to tell you why this won’t work. Maybe it gives you a litany of reasons why the economy is bad or you’re not talented enough. Perhaps the critical voice that lives in your head is well-versed in statistics (mine is) - it will start to recite all the names of people you know who have tried and failed. Maybe the critical voice can’t think of anyone who has even tried - so it tells you that that is proof why it can’t work.
We’ve been taught to believe that the voice of reason is the objective one. We trust it. We think it’s rational. So we quiet our big dream, and it scurries away into the recesses of our mind, never to be heard from again, except in quiet moments, in the empty space (which is sometimes why we avoid the quiet, empty space, but that’s another blog posting for another day).
When we don’t allow ourselves the opportunity to linger in possibility, we miss finding out what might happen. Most of the time, there are ways to make it happen. Most of the time, when people stay in that empty space long enough, open to exploring the idea, they see that there are resources and helpful people all around them - the fear just blinded them to realizing it. Once this happens, the idea starts to seem more feasible. In fact, things start aligning into place. A plan can be created. The idea no longer seems so unfeasible.