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Psychology Behind The Cinderella Complex

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Mary Fraser, Ph.D., a part-time psychology instructor at De Anza College, said she thinks women are taught that men make decisions and have more power than women. “And then we’ve got the whole Disney thing, where Prince Charming will come and save the day,” Fraser said.

She said there is also a division between the smart and the pretty girl. “We can’t do both, evidently,” Fraser said. “And if you are both, then you’re universally hated by both men and women; women because they’re jealous of you, and men because they don’t know what to do with you.” She said that a woman “who is living up to her potential is often cast aside or becomes a social outcast.”

In an evolutionary aspect, women don’t want to have to become a social outcast.
Fraser said, “The Beauty Myth: How Images of Beauty are Used Against Women,” by Naomi Wolf, is more of a modern, updated take and continuation of The Cinderella Complex.

Sources:
http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=cinderella%20complex
http://www.colettedowling.com/work2.htm
http://www.colettedowling.com/index.htm
http://therapists.psychologytoday.com/34706
http://www.amazon.com/Beauty-Myth-Images-Against-Women/dp/0385423977

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I never noticed it consciously until i wrote my first research paper on the depression in homemakers with fulltime employment, that this is exactly what i was describing. I also never noticed until this paper that i was given this complex!! I am 32 years old and when i go on a road trip or wish to hit up a movie by myself i hear my parents almost complain.."you mean, by yourself??". They never could grasp the concept of my independence. Glad i subconsciously changed that within myself.

April 28, 2010 - 6:43pm
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Anonymous (reply to Anonymous)

You are onto something with the depression of homemakers with full-time employment. What about abuse by your stepparent, tending never-ending chores, being made to wait on your step siblings and never allowed out with friends, How about never allowed out without curfew. the woman romanticizing about a man rescuing her is not cinderella syndrome. thats Snow White who wants prince charming. Cinderella implies dysfunctional and abusive relationship between a stepparent, step siblings and step child. Cinderella was abused by her mother and stepsisters and didn't care about the prince she just wanted to enjoy life, living and to be social, dont we all dream of what cinderella dreamed and hoped for…... mean while the miserable step mother and siblings ruined her ability to be free. The Prince found her because she left her slipper behind and he had the means to find her. Not because she dreamed of being rescued. Cinderella dreamed of being normal not rescued.

May 8, 2014 - 11:52pm
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