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Reconceptualizing Depression: More Than a Word

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You’ve heard the commercials for antidepressants promising to help treat depression, but they never specify what type of depression. And the way that many people talk about depression, you would think it’s just one mental disorder that affects everyone at some point. Does this seem confusing? How can it affect everyone if it’s a disorder? You’re not alone, and there needs to be a reconceptualization of what depression really is because of this confusion.

Doug Haymaker, a clinical psychologist, said in an email that many of his patients seem to be misinformed about the true meaning of depression.

“One of the most common reasons people come to see me is because the ‘have’ depression,” Haymaker said. “Usually, what they mean is they have a vulnerability to depression -- not constantly depressed, but under the right (or wrong) circumstances, they can become depressed.”

Depression is currently used by many people to describe any state that has some depressive symptoms, although this is inaccurate.

“I agree that depression is overused, meaning anything from seriously disabling (can't get out of bed) to a personality that tends to be pessimistic and glum,” Haymaker said. “When I see people, I make a distinction between how they feel (sad) and how they function, among many other things.”

Rebecca Cagle, a certified advanced professional life coach, said in an email that she separates depression and sadness, which can sometimes be confused with each other.

“Sadness is usually attributed to specific events,” Cagle said. “In most cases of sadness, you do not lose hope all together. You may even feel immediate despair when a loved one dies but you eventually regain your hope ... Sadness generally does not require medication, except in short term cases such as the first few weeks following the death of a close loved one.”

Although she doesn’t differentiate between different types of depression, she said that depression should be separated from sadness in its definition.

“Depression is like a black hole that you are in and there seems to be no way out. You feel unfathomable despair,” Cagle said.

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I couldn't have said what Stephanie has told you any better. You are worth more than what Depression makes you feel like. If you need any assistance looking for a therapist or counselor that can work on a sliding scale or for free, please let us know.

Best of luck to you,


August 21, 2011 - 5:59pm
(reply to Rosa Cabrera RN)

Thank you Stephanie and Rosa, Your concern and advice is appreciated. I did find a therapist that is willing to accept the insurance payment and waive the co-pay..I just need to call and make an appt. It's difficult for me to allow someone "in" and allow myself to be vulnerable by opening myself up to them..the wall has grown quite high over the yrs. Will let you know how it goes once I finally do go. Thank you again, Blessings

August 24, 2011 - 7:11pm

Hi Chippi, I just want to encourage you to try going back to therapy or pursuing other help. You're saying that "a fatal disease would be a blessing" and "I don't want to live another 20-30 years feeling this way." That is perfectly understandable to feel that way, but it's also a sign that it's time to do something. Depression is often cyclical, and just because you've recovered in the past doesn't mean you're immune in the future. Sounds like right now you are experiencing a kind of relapse, but it DOESN'T have to be permanent. You can get past this again - you beat it before!
You have a purpose beyond this, and depression is robbing you right now. A lot of counselors offer pro bono or sliding scale services that can be very affordable. You are worth it!
Depression is an abusive disorder - it tells you that you can't handle looking for help and paralyzes you to believe or hope, even when help is very achievable. And it is.
I will be thinking about you, Chippi, let me know if there is something I can do to help. And Rheyanne, thanks for the great and informative article. I will definitely be sharing!

August 21, 2011 - 5:42pm

Thank you for this article. As a lifelong sufferer of depression, I was able to relate to much of what I read. People who do not suffer with depression do not understand exactly what it entails and how much it affects one's life. I get the impression that people w depression are viewed as someone who sits around crying all the time and feeling sorry for themselves. The past 6 months have been the worst for me with the depression, even though I have been living w this for decades. Even I did not realize how bad it could get until recently. I have days when I literally "cannot" function mentally or physically. Having Fibromyalgia also for the past 15 yrs. does not help the depression either. My cognitive abilities have been affected lately; memory, speech. I've been becoming more isolated lately and will go a week at a time without leaving my house, will not answer the phone for people I used to enjoy talking to, just unplug it some days so I don't have to hear it ring. On really bad days, cannot keep a thought straight in my head and am practically catatonic. The feeling of hopelessness and despair is literally overwhelming at times. I do believe suicide is the ultimate act of selfishness because it hurts so many who do love us, but to be quite frank, I am just so tired emotionally and physically lately, a fatal disease at this point would be a blessing because I just don't want to live another 20-30 yrs. feeling this way, I am 45 now. I am also going through menopause which I'm sure doesn't help matters any. I was going to a psychologist for talk therapy for over a year and that seemed to help somewhat, but could not afford the weekly co-pays any longer, so stopped going. It may be time to begin again as this seems to be getting worst the past few months. Again, thank you for the informative article.

August 19, 2011 - 9:15pm
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