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Every thought that goes through your mind during your waking hours is impacting your life. Life becomes much more peaceful when you realize your mental chatter doesn’t need to express an opinion and comment on everything.

If you pass a comment about every ad you see on TV, every outfit TV presenters are wearing, the way the newsreader used incorrect English – you are probably a boring person that is exhausting your own spirit. Maybe it is time to start focusing on bigger things.

Food poisoning sends your body to rejection mode. You can do the same with your mind - reject what serves no purpose. Those that are wealthy know you cannot have a million dollar income on a ten dollar mindset. You need to increase your value with new thinking, processes and habits. If something keeps coming to mind, ask yourself what the real issue is and address it – don’t let the petty imaginary arguments and fear based daydreams take over.

If your mental chatter is nothing but constantly judging others, thinking things that really serve no purpose, instead, wish everyone you see happiness and a blessing. The chatter will eventually stop.

Constant mental chatter is tiring, pointless and not the kindness you should be radiating. Internal gossip can lower your immune system, where as positive thoughts or silence can boost it.

Other mind chatter can be songs that are stuck in your head and silly habitual thought patterns. All these things hinder your concentration. If you can stop this chatter, you can finally allow your higher self to come alive and have space; space that can bring clarity, healing and inspiration.

Some people never make time for silence. At work there is noise, outside there is noise, on the bus there is noise. After this bombardment of sound all day, why then, do some people come home and immediately switch on the radio or TV even if they aren’t listening or watching it? Silence is your friend. It is healthy, it is wise, and it makes you a nicer person. Create silence and adore it.

Allison O’Neill adored self growth from a very young age.

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Allison, thank you! What an interesting blog, I have bookmarked it for future reference. You were right on target in several things you said -- especially that the mind never gets a break, for instance. (I have long said that it must not really be "my" brain, because if it was "my" brain, I would be able to tell it what to remember and what to forget, when to be active and when to be still, and so on, LOL.)

I also looked at your blog for yesterday -- in which you talk about being at a crossroads in life. There are so many people who are out of work right now and/or seeking their next step in life that I thought I'd link to it here as well:


Again, thanks, and I'll look forward to reading what you come up with about internal-focus chatter!

March 24, 2009 - 8:45am

Hi Diane, your point about the internal vs. external focus is very interesting - thank you for making it. I wrote the article from the 'judging others' external perspective, and hadnt actually considered how the internal can be just as mentally tiring. I think meditation helps me create a peace and a silence that we all so desperately need(I've written a piece about it here: http://liveknowingthis.blogspot.com/2009/01/meditation-tool-for-super-successful.html )doing this regularlly allows my mind to automatically focus on what is important and leave everything else behind. I might see if I can russle up enough words to write about the internally focused mental chatter soon, as like you I'm thinking about my 'to do' list while cooking (brain in 'organising' mode). We need to teach ourselves when to stop! Thanks so so much for your thoughts. :) Allison

March 23, 2009 - 12:05pm

Allison, I loved your post.

I'm one of those who usually have something "on" in the house -- the television, or music. But it's partly because in silence, my inner chatter actually seems LOUDER. Somehow, if there is some background noise, my chatter calms down. I'm not sure I understand why, but I do know that the thought of so much silence stresses me out a little.

This is not the case when I am deeply involved in reading a book, for instance -- I can do that quietly all day long. So clearly, the reading quiets my mind's chatter on its own.

My chatter doesn't tend to be about others. It tends to be about myself -- things I need to do, or things I feel about myself, areas in which I'm feeling like I'm falling short, things I'm trying not to forget, or just something that's on my mind. I wonder if you've been successful at calming this internal-focus type of chatter as well as the external-focus types you're writing about?

There is such a tendency today to multi-task. We are cooking dinner while kids are eating a snack, doing homework and asking questions. We watch television and fold laundry. We check our email and go to the gym with our ipods, stopping at the post office on the way. We combine business and pleasure, lunch and meetings. We get dog food on the way home, and check our calendars before bed. No wonder the chatterbox is on fulltime!

Would love to hear more of your thoughts. And thank you for writing.

March 23, 2009 - 9:32am

Hi Susan, Yes a lot of it is habit and just repeated thought patterns. Most people would be shocked if they actually audited their thoughts (I still am surprised at my thoughts sometimes and have been auditing them for ages). People that think they are super positive may see how many negitive/nasty thoughts they really have. Its a good question about it being cultural or environmental. I suppose within peer groups where a lot of gossip, negative/petty talk goes on it is defintely environmental. If people within that peer group want to change that, they'd need to step right back or try and get the group on board with being nicer and more positive.

P.S. I cringe to think how much bad grammar you found in my piece - I'm writing for 'love' though, not correctness!

March 22, 2009 - 1:54pm
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I really like this and you're right - I think we have a lot more mental chatter than we think.

Is is mostly habit, do you think? Why do some people have all this chatter and others have less? Do you think it could also be cultural or environmental?

(I have to say I'm guilty of making comments about bad grammar - it drives me mad!)

March 20, 2009 - 12:30pm
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