Life can be disappointing at times, and during those difficult periods it can be an effort to remain positive and find the beauty in life. In fact, it can be much easier to complain and dwell on the negativity that appears to be surrounding us.
However, most people also know that focusing on the negative aspects of life is not healthy, and eventually can decrease overall quality of life.
So what can you do if you tend to be pessimistic, expect the worst outcome and engage in behaviors like constantly gossiping, complaining, moping, pointing out flaws and errors?
Experts have some suggestions for finding your inner optimist.
Curtis Kessinger, the founder of Success Minded Coaching and author of “The Ultimate You: Achieving Greatness,” explains the main characteristics of pessimists, and suggests that it’s not always easy to find out if you’re a pessimist or optimist, and then make a decision to change or stay the same.
“Pessimists see the problem rather than seeing a possible solution,” Kessinger said in an email. “It is tough for most people to see themselves the way they truly are. Everyone has flaws that everyone else can see from a mile away.”
He has some suggestions for how you can overcome a pessimistic outlook on life.
“Becoming aware of how they think is huge in changing,” Kessinger said. “They must use reminders, self-suggestion to overcome it. Planning their daily life is the best way to make the change. Success is actually very simple once they know it's a choice.”
It is worth it to make the change. Optimists are happier and tend to have better mental and overall health.
“Living a happy and fulfilled life is the difference,” Kessinger said. “Optimists live happy on a daily basis. Happiness cannot be bought.”
If you choose to remain pessimistic, your health can eventually suffer.
“Seeing the ugly side of life leads to stress and depression and often leads to serious illness,” Kessinger said. “The mind and body are connected as one system. One impacts the other.”
Even if you are deeply pessimistic, there is still hope for you.