Are You Sexually Normal -- And Does That Matter? -- Part 2

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July 13, 2009 - 8:08am 916 reads 2 comments

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Here are ten of the most common versions of "Am I normal?"

1) Are my sexual fantasies normal?
2) Are my penis/erection, balls/labia/breasts normal shape, size, color?
3) I seem to lubricate too much/too little when I get excited. Am I normal?
4) Unlike my friends, I like/don't like watching X-rated videos. Am I normal?
5) I just don't like oral sex/my nipples fondled/anal play/open-mouth kissing. Am I normal?
6) I want sex a lot more often than my girlfriend. Am I normal?
7) I enjoy lovemaking, but my biggest orgasms are from masturbation. Am I normal?
8) I really like being held down and being treated a bit roughly during sex. Am I normal?
9) When I was in college, I had sex with this couple about four or five different times. Am I normal?
10) I need to have my clitoris stroked in order to have an orgasm. Am I normal?

Such questions should not be answered...in a better world, people would not worry about them.

SO WHAT IS NORMAL, ANYWAY?

People who are concerned with being sexually normal are caught in a painful dilemma. On the one hand, they're afraid they aren't normal, work hard to be, and always see ways they need to be different.

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Comment by Anonymous on July 13, 2009 - 5:21pm

Hi, Dr. Klein, after reading this article I have a question for you....What about when a man feels the urge/desire to wear women's lingerie while having sex with his wife. Doesn't that cross over the boundary of "normal?" It seems to me that there are some sexual desires or needs that cross over the line of normal.

Comment by Anonymous on July 20, 2009 - 6:42am

"So what is normal anyway?" I really like this question, whether it's related to sexual habits or not, and thank you for framing normality as you have done in this intelligent and interesting piece. Thanks.

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