Liberate Yourself From Self-Limiting Thoughts and Feelings
Here’s one example of a new and higher inner action to take when faced with the presence of any discouraging inner state: See that the size of the discouragement you feel is directly proportional to the size of your insistence that life conform to your demands. Then, having verified this truth for yourself, dare to quietly drop that self-defeating demand.
The first time you bring such a light to bear on any discouraged thought or feeling, it will fade from view – much as shadows do when the sun reaches its mid-day zenith. Their departure leaves you with fresh new energies that not only grant you “new eyes” through which to see how you can proceed with your wish, but that also grant you the strength to begin the next leg of your quest.
For instance, maybe you’ve felt discouraged because you wanted to learn something new – a higher skill or a difficult lesson – but felt sure that certain limitations of yours placed this possibility beyond your abilities. And so you resigned yourself to feeling discouraged. While this kind of self-defeating behavior is commonly accepted as natural, it’s totally unnecessary. You can do something much higher!
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Thank you. Thank you. This is a column full of energy and life-changing thoughts. And we need them more than ever today, especially when so many people are dealing with the loss of jobs, or homes, or both. There are plenty of gloomy voices all around us in the world; we don't need extra ones inside.
As a (trying to reform) self-admitted control freak, dropping self-defeating demands will be my biggest challenge. Understanding that it can be done seems easy; doing it seems hard. I hope you'll be writing more in the future. And thank you again.