Parenting children of any age is tough. But raising a tween girl, on the brink of puberty, has got to be one of the hardest seasons in any parent's life.
Parents of children around 8 to 12 years old might not have to deal with diapers, nap times, or potty training anymore but they are dealing with friends and bullies and homework. And on top of all the emotional, mental, and physically difficult things that come with parenting a tween, you have to deal with puberty, too!
Many parents are anxious, or maybe even fearful, about having The Talk with their preteen girls. Here are three basic points to get you through conversations with her about puberty.
Use this information as a starting point to cover the major issues that come with puberty for girls and boys. Then expand on them over time, based on your child's interest and curiosity.
Before a girl gets her first period, she will most likely start growing hair under her arms, on her legs, and in her pubic area. It starts out light and sparse, but usually grows thicker and darker as she goes through puberty. There is no medical reason to remove hair, though some girls may want to for appearance purposes.
Sometime between the ages of 9 to 13 (through the age range can vary) girls will develop breast tissue. The estrogen that is now flowing through a girl's body at this stage will cause breast budding and she will get small bumps behind her nipples.
Over time, the nipples and breast buds will get bigger, the nipples become darker, and the breasts will continue to fill out. She may experience some breast tenderness. Helping her protect that sensitive breast tissue by wearing a sports bra or a cupless bra can be helpful.
Girls to get their first period as early as 10 years of age. Typically it will come between the ages of 10 to 15. For most girls, their periods will start about two years after their breasts develop. They may also experience a vaginal discharge that appears like mucus about six months before their first menstruation.