Keri explains how people reacted when she told them she and her husband were adopting and would never try fertility treatments.
People were very shocked. It was totally against the norm. It wasn’t a path that most people took and they immediately started asking us all these questions out of curiosity, and what happened was when I was working, I was working with a bunch of women, and they knew everything about me. Every time I came in, once a month, they’d say, "Oh, are you pregnant? Are you pregnant? What’s going on? What’s happening?"
And finally one day when I came in and I just said, "We are not going to choose to do fertility. We are going to adopt." Their mouths were dropped. “What? What do you mean? Don’t you want to be a mom?” And I said, "Yeah, I can be a mom without conceiving a child and giving birth to a child." I don’t feel as though that I have to give birth to a child to be a mom, and we chose to adopt and that’s the path that we chose to take.
And it took a little while for people to kind of understand it and get used to the idea, and my mom even said, “Oh Keri, why don’t you just wait, wait and keep trying, and don’t worry about it, it will happen,” and I just said, "No, Mom, this is our decision."
And they accepted it, but it was so different from the norm that I think people weren’t expecting. The norm is to go down the path to try all these options, to take the medication, to do all those steps, and then to hopefully eventually become pregnant. And our train of thought, our thought was we wanted to be parents. I wanted to be a mom. My husband wanted to be a father, and this is how we wanted to have our family, that we didn’t want to go down that path and for the various reasons that we have discussed.
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