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Keri Shares If Women Realize There Is No Guarantee With Fertility Treatments (VIDEO)

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Keri Shares If Women Realize There Is No Guarantee With Fertility Treatments (VIDEO)
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Keri explains if women recognize that fertility treatments do not guarantee they will get pregnant.

Keri:
I don’t know. I don’t think so. I don’t know if they, I think that they are so probably fixated on wanting to have a child, to conceive a child “of their own,” which personally I don’t understand that, “of your own.” I think that of your own could be adopted or conceived. I think that, you know, and in the end, and I have friends that are struggling with fertility right now that I just see them and they are dishing out tens of thousands of dollars going through these treatments, and in the end, it’s still not a guarantee that you are going to become pregnant.

And, with adoption, you will have a baby. You will get a baby, and the costs are more reasonable, and there is a guarantee in the end that you will have a child, and so many people ask me, "Well, what about the health of a child? You don’t know anything about the parents. There’s all these other unknowns," and I said, "Well, there’s unknowns when you conceive a child too." You don’t know if that child is going to be healthy or not. You hope and pray that they will. It’s the same thing with adopting a baby. They could be healthy, or you could have issues later on in life, just like with your own child that you conceive.

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Susan Cody HERWriter Guide

Keri

I can't help but laugh at the "of your own" comment.

We have friends who adopted two children and they told us that they too have been asked if someday they'd also like "Kids of your own!"

They looked at the people asking the question as if to say "what do you mean, of my own? These kids ARE my own!".

Maybe it's easy for me to say since I didn't have any problems getting pregnant but I think we put too much value on the whole biological issue with having kids. Children need and give love, kisses, hugs, care, food, shelter and nurture. What does it matter what kind of DNA they have? Or whose?

Congrats on your children, I'm sure you are doing a great job raising them and you are all lucky to have found each other.

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