As the last article in this series stated, there are plenty of reasons why some women choose not to have children. Another reason, added on to the previous two, is for physical health reasons (besides mental health).
Some women may have physical problems that prevent them from having children, could complicate the pregnancy or even possibly kill them in the process of the pregnancy or labor. There are also factors that could lead to a deformed child. Some women don’t want to have to consider the above, so they abstain from pregnancy. One Web site, www.divinecaroline.com, also lists health as a reason for not having children, as some women don’t want to see their children suffer from passed-on health problems. They might not want to adopt either for personal reasons.
Donna, 48, who wished to not be fully named for privacy reasons, said she decided not to have children for health reasons in an e-mail. Due to a near-fatal car crash, she says the possibility of having a deformed child was high, since her egg count was almost depleted. “The main reason I never had children is because of the medical issue; of course, adoption was always an option once I got married, but after all that I had been through with the car wreck, I lost patience and just couldn't see me finding the time, or patience, that a child needs,” she says.
Women might also not have children because they haven’t found someone they would want to have children with and don’t feel like raising a child on their own. Donna says she was still unmarried when she was 29 so hadn’t thought about having children at that point, until after her car crash. She says she discussed the idea of adoption with her future husband but they both still have decided to stay child-free for right now. She also says she wonders what would have happened if she had a child before the car crash. “Plenty of high school friends married the first guy that came along, had children, got divorced and had to raise the children on their own,” she says.