We live in a society where sex is at its core. We think of ourselves as great lovers, the media bombards us what images of the perfect lover, the perfect couple, the sexiest men alive, etc. But what type of lover are you? Below is an interesting list that describes various types according to Pepper Schwartz, PhD, a sociology professor at the University of Washington in Seattle:
1. The romantic
You love being in love. You may be swept away by your new lover’s looks or other appealing physical attributes—and disappointed when they change over time.
2. The list-maker
You have criteria that are important, and you won’t change them. Even if you’re in a committed relationship, you may put too much pressure on your partner to live up to your standards.
3. The obsessive
You want to spend all your time with your partner. And you constantly worry about your relationship, even when you’ve been together for years. Schwartz says this kind of partner can be overbearing or have highs and lows that drive her significant other crazy.
4. The giver
You may give more than you get. “At some point, you find that it’s all going one way,” Schwartz says. You’re constantly working selflessly to meet your partner’s needs, but you’re not looking after you.
5. The player
You love courtship. “For these lovers, the chase is a lot of it,” Schwartz says. You’re easily bored in long-term relationships, though, and your eye may roam.
6. The pal
Love seems to creep up on you. One day you think, “Wow, I’ve really been spending a lot of time with Jack,” then realize you’re in love. In the long term, your relationship may be quiet, but it’s strong.
So, what type of lover are you? Can you think of another kind not listed here perhaps?