My Boyfriend and i have been dating since this past January and met in December. At the beginning we had a completely open relationship. The reason we could do this was honesty. He would tell me whether girls were cute etc and I would either agree or disagree. We had 2 threesomes, one where I even let him have sex with her, which didn't bother me, the other the girl didn't want him to or i would have let him. My boyfriend and I thought we were on top of the world, we were different than everyone else and we were having fun and being honest with each other. Or so I thought. Months went by, he worked at his brothers shop, and I found out that he was going to whorehouse right next to work to pick up lunch for the guys at work since his work is secluded, this is a good place ot pick up lunch. the other guys couldnt because of their wives. Well to be honest, at this point we were honest with each other etc, and I really had no problem, I was a stripper at the time because with the economy I couldn't find work as quickly as I needed it. I couldn't argue the whorehouse because I was stripping.
Then I stopped stripping. Because it was bothering him. and because I didn't like the drama that was involved with that profession. Well, he continued. He lied to me every time [not everyday though] that he would go to the whorehouse, he told me hepicked up lunch and left.
July/August comes around, he was at different work for 2 months, and he decides to go back to the [mechanic] shop for work, i get scared, being away was a really nice break, i didn't have to worry about the whorehouse, so we talk. We argue and I found out that he talked to the girls about tattoos checked them out to spite me because he knew i didn't like it. WE had an AGREEMENT that we would look at girls, flirt when we were TOGETHER. he broke the trust.
Since then we decided like we did before that in order to fix our relationship we would have a closed one. he claims he doesn't want to even slightly go back to our old selves, just looking at girls together even if he and i fix our relationship because he doesn't want to ruin us.
Now, that story out of the way, now being closed and just us in our relationship and being strict with each other, he lies about stupid stuff we fight like never before, the stuff he does irritates me [snapping at me, admitting to not hearing me when i talk, not as affectionate, sex is down from quickies before work and after work to just twice a week if lucky. I tell him to make me feel wanted but I'm not sure if it's from the open relationship to closed that he's acting like this or what but he has changed 180 degrees since everything.
Is it possible that he changed his feeling towards me after realizing we cant have this unique "bond" in our relationship anymore?