Hello, I am 19 years old and I have been with my boyfriend for almost 4 years.
We only have sex when he wants, this is usually about 5 times a month.
I make it clear to him that I want to have sex, so its not like he doesn't know.
He has once told me that it is a turn off to him when I want sex..
I don't think its fair that we only have sex when he wants... but if I cut him off for a while then I would be getting less sex than I was in the beginning.
What should I do..?
UPDATE!
Hey Ladies! Thanks for your advice : ) Im really glad I can come here with my embarrassing questions! Hah.
I will for sure talk to him about how I feel, and I hope we understand each other.
To answer a few of your questions, yes I do try to turn him on. I don't just ask every time, but that most times still doesn't work. Also I feel that I may be to blame for the reason he is "turned off" when I want to have sex.
In the bedroom I am very submissive, and I like it when he takes control. He like to be in control, so it works out perfectly.. but that may be the reason why when I want to have sex he doesn't.. he may feel hes not in control.