I am 30 and my boyfriend is 40. We've been dating 1 year. We started out having a great sex life. Then 4 months into the relationship he started having to travel for work and got a really busy schedule. He recently got a promotion and is under a lot of stress. He doesn't like that he has to travel very much and has told me that he is looking forward to not having to be in Sacramento so much. We still hang out as much as possible. However I have an opposite schedule (work the evening shift 2-10:30pm) and he works during the day. On weekends he is exhausted. I am very frustrated because I would like to have sex 1 or 2x a week, and in the past 6 months it has been a struggle. He will occasionally say "ahh, I have to get to work!" and jump out of bed in the morning really stressed like and get on all his clothes before we have any intimate time. His other excuse is I have to be at a meeting. I am at the point where I am just so frustrated. We both love eachother and I know he is under a ton or stress with a new promotion that requires 12 hour days. He says he cannot handle me pouting or being sad. When we have sex it good. He has said that I am "the best".
I waited until I was 25 to have sex. He's had many years to have this enjoyment. I'm not a crazy sex addict, I just need sex (it's essential) 1 or 2x a week. We average 4x a month. But occasionally if I'm on my period or he's dead tired I'm scared to initiate sex. I don't want to be turned down.
Is there something wrong with me having to ask him questions and need to have sex. I am in my prime and don't want to waste my time. However, I love him, and I know that we both want to stay in the relationship. Do men's sex drives slow down in their 40's?