hi, im a 26 year old female in a loving, affectionate, caring, sexless 6 year relationship. in the beginning we had an active and fulfilling sex life, but as time went on it dwindled. for about the last 3 years we have been trying to improve and deal with this, long talks and new ideas to spice things up, new toys, different types of birth control. anything to increase our average sexual encounter to something more like 4 times a month, instead of just once. three years and im still feeling lonely, rejected, unattractive and just plain damn hurt. i have tried to be understanding, i have offered advice and have been willing to do adventurous things, i started a different type of birth control, got new sexy underwear that he likes, but nothing helps. we have talked about this so many times, then we try things and it doesn't work and it starts all over again. recently i have been having dreams about cheating on him, we talked about this because i absolutely do not want to do that. but im honestly worried it might happen. i mean i feel like im just supposed to give up my sexuality. the thing that hurts the most, is that i know he masturbates frequently and watches porn. so its not a matter of him not having a sex drive.
other than this our relationship is just so great, we moved in together and started a company. he is affectionate and caring and generous. we want to get married and have children, but how is that going to happen if we never have sex? i would sincerely appreciate any advice on how to fix this and why he would do this.
thank you