Many couples choose to engage in bondage play for sexual satisfaction. Bondage usually involves the use of restraints to add to a dominant/submissive role play. Because they driven by power and control, bondage fantasies may sometimes get out of hand, which is why it’s important to adopt safe practices in any type of scenario.
A major issue in bondage play is unrealistic expectations. Couples often view a particular pornographic scene and believe they have the expertise to replicate it. In reality, adult entertainment products are highly manipulated and edited in order to appear more attractive and natural. Therefore, their contents may not be so easy to re-enact in everyday life.
With this in mind, here are some tips for ensuring a successful bondage session:
1) Prepare an exit strategy. If you’re using ropes, keep a pair of scissors nearby. If you’re using handcuffs, keep the key on hand – preferably in the same room as the submissive. Always stock your bedroom with plenty of lube as well.
2) Keep restraints away from the neck and pressure points. Never let ropes, collars, etc. get near the head or neck area in the event of a slip or fall. Ropes should be tied either above or below the joints, not on them, and wrists should be tied together in the front rather than in the back to avoid cutting off blood flow to the hands. Stay away from the inner thighs, elbows, inner biceps, and backs of the knees.
3) Invest in quality equipment. It may seem easy to grab the nearest reel of utility rope or duct tape, but your chance of injury runs high with these materials. Comfy padded supplies specifically designed for sexual activities are available at a wide number of bondage sites on the web. Many of them even come with user ratings and reviews.
4) Follow the one-finger rule. When tying restraints, it’s always a good idea to follow the one-finger rule. Make sure there’s enough room for your index finger to slip under the rope to minimize session-ending discomfort.
5) Pick your safewords. This is an obvious suggestion, but it’s a good idea to have TWO different safe words. The first can be used when the submissive does not want to break character, such as yellow, and the second can be used to end the scenario completely, such as red.
For those who choose to engage in bondage play, safety precautions are a must. By following these guidelines you can ensure long-term pleasure in whatever sexual lifestyle you choose.