It has entirely ruined our sex life. he lied about jerking off for along while, and id see cum on the toilet and he'd lie about it. It's not that he jerked off, its just the worst feeling in the world to be lied to right in my face. Every women i know thinks of it in either two ways, natural, or wrong. My husband would turn me down, and say hes not in the mood for both night and morning, then would jerk off that morning. I was getting tired of all the lies and how things were going, i therefore told him i cant deal with it anymore, me and the kids dont deserve it, lies that is. so i kinda told him how it was, and told him he needs to figure out his priorities, and that he needs to stop lying and treating our sex life like some joke. and he finally addmitted he was doing it. and said he was done. BUT, is he really done? Or is he starting off at the beginning with the lies.... I told him, that he can jerked off, it just better not be a horrible sex life and no loving. and that he needs to be fully honest with me. maybe me telling him that i was about done with everything made him realize what had happen. he said he couldnt live without me and the kids. but if he says hes done and he knows that if he keeps lying to me, and sneaking around and not wanting sex and it goes right back to where it was before, then what? should i actually leave him? cuz ive never once lied about something sooo serious and made that lie continue. im very open with anything, and he was too till this came. he knows i cant handle that crap, and if he knows and still does it, its his loss right?