Hi! Me and my fiance has been dating for a year and a half now and we are living together. Things have been great and I feel like our relationship is stronger than ever. We have been through a lot with each other and I definitely think that he is the one. We argue from time to time, but I think it is only normal for couple to argue.
He joined the army and he is leaving in a couple months, and that raises a lot of questions for us. Before he joined the army, we were planning on getting married sometimes next year. Now that he is leaving in a few months, things are getting very confusing, I don't know what to do. He will be leaving for 6 months for basic training and school, and we were going to get married after that. Then one day, he asked me what if we get married before he goes. I didn't give him an answer then, but a few days ago, I was thinking about it and I think it is a good idea to get married before he goes, because I really think it will make us stronger than we are already. So I told him let's get married before he goes, and he was hesitated. I was bumped out, I felt like I was shut down and that I put myself out there and get rejected in a sense. I told him how I felt and he said, he was only hesitated because he just wanted to make sure that I will be able to handle him being gone for six months.
To be honest, six months is a long time and the only reason I am worried about is how I am going to get through everyday without see him, and without him being there with me everyday, but that is the only problem. I am absolutely 100% faithful and loyal to him! The thing is I am a junior in college and I am trying to graduate next year. After that, I want to either find a job or go to grad school. I have a really clear vision of what I want to do in the future, but I am just afraid that my path and his path doesn't match. It really sounds like I am contradicting myself, doesn't it? But I want some kind of commitment before he goes so that I know for sure me and him will be together in the future, because if I am ensured that, I don't care about anything else. I am willing to move with him where ever he will be stationed in the army. I just want to know for sure that he won't change his mind about being with me after being gone for six months. I want to be that person who will be waiting for him to come back and who he will come back to. I love him with all my heart and I want it to work out between us. I just need some opinion of what I should do. I know that I want to get married to him, and I know that he wants to get married as well. The question is that IS NOW THE RIGHT TIME or SHOULD WE WAIT UNTIL HE IS BACK FROM 6 MONTHS OF BASIC TRAINING AND SCHOOL? Thank you for reading and answering!