I should clear this up, i have a sexual drive but only when I'm in the mood. I rarely have sex with my boyfriend because I'm just not up for it. Lately he's been complaining that I don't initiate like I used to. I know this but it's hard to explain. When I have sex I enjoy it most of the time but I do feel like it's almost impossible to get started. Either I feel self contious with myself, tired, or upset with my boyfriend for not helping me with dishes or something like that. Sometimes I feel discomfort in my vagina during sex and its painful. (I've had this for a few years and doctors cannot help) after the discomfort my sex drive plumited. So sometimes it's not enjoyeable. I love my boyfriend and we plan on getting married someday but I don't want to be a girl who can't please her guy. Even worse, I don't want to continue to not feel sexy. What can I do to incrrase my sex drive and improve this part of my relationship ?