I am a 54 year old woman and have been married 3 times. I am in a relationship now and we are very seriously considering getting married. My problem is, I have never had children vaginally and have a small vagina. My boyfriend is larger than any of my previous husbands and we cant seem to get very far in the bedroom. We used a lubricant but still it is tearing me. I know since I have been through menopause that I have lost alot of elasticity in my vagina. Do you have any suggestions on what we can do in this case, as we do love each other dearly and would like to consumate our love. So far, he has been very patient and gentle with me in trying. I hate to disappoint him in this area of our relationship. Can you please help. Thanks for listening. Pam