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Biggest Turn Ons for Women

By Stacy Lloyd HERWriter
 
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What turns on women? For the most part, it’s no big secret. If a man works to create a strong connection with the woman in his life, she will be turned on. Below are more examples of what turns on all kinds of women.

Being Close
The biggest turn on for a woman is feeling emotionally close to her partner. It’s not the fancy car or money in bank. While men generally look at the external, most women look inside. She wants a soul mate, someone she connects with on all levels.

A Good Listener
Women are turned on by men who listen and pay attention. If a woman feels her concerns are important to her man, she will more likely desire intimacy. Women don’t usually want to get physical with men who dismiss their concerns.

Treats Her with Respect
Treat a woman with respect and she’ll be far more willing to get cozy. A man who speaks disrespectfully may find his partner’s enthusiasm for intimacy has decreased.

Verbal Reassurance
Women are verbal creatures. They need occasional reassurances they are important to their men. A big turn on for a woman is to hear loving words whispered in her ear.

Good Hygiene
Down and dirty doesn’t cut it for many women. This may seem obvious but some men overlook it and then wonder why their partner avoids intimacy.

Men Who Act Like Men
A woman respects a man who has emotional strength. With pressures increasing on women to work, raise children and take care of the home, a big turn on is a man strong enough to shoulder some of the load.

Men Who Make Love in a Leisurely Manner
Those who spend time mastering the art of love-making are who women want to be with the most. Men who take time beforehand to help her relax will lead to mutual fun.

Excellent Kissers
A man who knows how to kiss will get much further. Women are not fans of men who slobber or don’t know what to do with their tongues.

The Right Kind of Attitude
Men who have the right attitude, and don’t take things for granted, will impress the heck out of women.

Sense of Humor
A sense of humor is a big turn on for many women.

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Anonymous

Kissing a woman's collarbone. Works every time haha

December 30, 2010 - 11:23pm
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Anonymous

These traits are universally desired and should be universally accepted as qualities all humans should possess. The needs of men and women aren't mutually exclusive. What decent man wouldn't want an attentive, respectful, supportive, cleanly, responsible, sexually aware woman with a positive attitude and a sense of humor?

August 9, 2010 - 5:18am
EmpowHER Guest
Anonymous

A guy with the right attitude?
Just a little vague.
When I find a woman with "the right kind of attitude" she will already know that no "attitude" is best.

August 3, 2010 - 6:30am
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Anonymous

This is a great article. I had no idea that women liked men who treat them with respect and listened to them. Next time I fall in love, I'll be sure to treat my girl nicely instead of beating her like I usually do.

July 10, 2010 - 11:47am
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Anonymous

Anonymous,
It sounds as if you had some difficulty with women. Yes, women are very complicated at times and can be so wish-washy that you don't know when you are supposed to turn left or right. We all have those days and usually hormones are involved during the crazy times.

I am not sure if you are referring to a certain someone in your life but most of the time (if we get wish-washy), take a few days away for that certain someone to gather her thoughts. It may or may not be worth it but most women are the same. Can't live with us, can't live without us syndrome.

Good Luck!

July 10, 2010 - 9:20am
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Anonymous

these are lies, women have no idea what they want and constantly change their mind. the only thing they want is something they cant have

July 10, 2010 - 9:14am
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Anonymous

Hi Anonymous,

We are not machines. We are really human beings but since this list has been in every magazine, then there must be some truth to the matter.

July 10, 2010 - 8:48am
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Anonymous

Were you paid to write this? Everything you listed has been written hundreds of times before. Actually, I bet you could open any issue of Cosmopolitan or Glamour from the last 3 decades and you would find this exact list. If you're going to get paid to write something why not try to use your life experiences explain the biggest turn-ons you've experienced instead of a generic list, that way it will at least have some semblance that it was written by a human being and not created by a list making machine.

July 10, 2010 - 8:35am
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Anonymous

Awesome, he tick all those boxes- Its quite funny that the basics of what a woman wants spans 2 pages.

June 22, 2010 - 5:20am
GregC

hey blue tree,

It sounds to me that he is not trying to play mind tricks with you. I think maybe he is trying to be romantic but is choice of wording is not sounding right. Thats just my opinion.

June 14, 2010 - 5:24am
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