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5 Tips for Women Who Are Single And Sick Of It

By Joanna Karpasea-Jones
 
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Are you single and sick of it? Tired of sharing other people’s Kodak moments instead of making your own?

Here’s a five point plan to help you get noticed!

1. Love yourself.
If you don’t, why should anyone else? If you think you’re not good enough, not worthy enough, not attractive enough to find love, then your attitude towards yourself will show to any potential suitors and put them off. Say to yourself "I love myself. I am a wonderful woman and I deserve love." Repeat this every day.

Another way you can love yourself is to make sure you have plenty of hobbies so that you aren’t just sitting at home when you come in from work, waiting for Mr. Right to show up.

Treat yourself regularly with trips to the hair salon. Get your nails done. If your wardrobe’s a bit drab, buy yourself something that makes you feel amazing. This will raise your confidence so that you will believe you have things to offer in a relationship.

2. Remember first impressions can stay with you for a lifetime.
A potential partner may make the decision to talk to you or not based entirely on his first impression of you. This may sound a bit superficial but unfortunately it’s true. Women are used to dressing up to go on a date, but what if you meet your future husband at the drugstore?

You should always dress nicely and have your hair done nicely wherever you go so that you will always have the "wow" factor whenever men look at you. This doesn’t mean dressing up to the nines or piling layers of makeup on, just making sure you always look smart.

3. Look at people!
It may surprise you, but according to British scientists, people only look at each other 30-60 percent of the time when talking to each other. If you want to draw a potential partner into your life, look directly into their eyes when you talk to them.

Eye contact is a basic animal instinct that stimulates the brain with messages to either approach or retreat, depending on the circumstances. When you look at somebody intently, their body produces chemicals like phenylethylamine which produces the sensation of being in love.

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LolaVanslette

Finding someone isn't always the problem. Finding the right one is a bit more difficult. I totally agree with your first tip. My late husband told me that 7 1/2 years before we were married (we had split up at that time). One disastrous marriage and two kids later, I remembered what he said. We reconnected, got married and had twin boys. Unfortunately, he was only with me for 8 years before he suddenly passed away, but it was the best 8 years of my life.

I guess my advice is, don't love yourself for someone else. Do it because you are worth it, then the someone else will take notice.

July 12, 2012 - 10:02am
Joanna Karpasea-Jones

Well, it's great if you want to be single, no problem with that at all.  This is more aimed at people who don't want to be but aren't having any luck finding someone.

July 11, 2012 - 3:46pm
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I am sick of being single and other people telling me or acting like there is something wrong with me. Being single is great.

July 10, 2012 - 12:08pm
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