All relationships involve give and take. You may find certain behavior from your partner acceptable, while your friend finds it disconcerting. No relationship is perfect, so how do you know when yours is toxic?
To begin with, domestic violence is a clear sign that you are in a toxic relationship, and you need to pay attention because it can become deadly.
According to the Safe Horizon website, “Two out of 3 female homicide cases, females are killed by a family member or intimate partner.”
Most individuals do not report domestic violence but it would be better if they did. Here is a link to a free hotline if you are in a relationship marked by domestic violence.
Not all toxic relationships involve domestic violence. Here are 55 signs that you might be in a toxic relationship:
1) You set up a private Facebook account so your partner can’t track your activities.
2) Conflict is your partner's middle name.
3) You find yourself editing all of your thoughts and comments, so that they won’t upset your partner.
4) Your partner is micromanaging your time or money or relationships. The person might not be attempting to control all of these areas of your life, but pay close attention to this.
5) You become physically ill whenever you have contact with your partner, or even anticipate having to interact with this person.
6) When you are with others, you find yourself making excuses for your partner’s inappropriate behavior.
7) Alcohol and/ or drugs are abused by your partner.
8) The partner puts you down in front of others.
9) No matter what the situation might be, you find yourself apologizing for the debacle.
10) Your partner is unfaithful to you and denies it when confronted by you.
11) You have a feeling that they are being unfaithful to you, but you lack evidence. You find yourself playing “detective” to try to prove your case.
12) Whenever you are in tears, your partner tells you that you are “too sensitive.”
13) Either someone has told you, or you know it deep down, that you are settling for less in your relationship.
Safe Horizon. Safe Horizon.org. Retrieved March 31, 2016.