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AUDIO: Dr. Marty Klein - When Is It Acceptable For A Woman In A New Relationship To Have Sex?

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No sex or relationship question is too embarrassing because it’s time to ask EmpowHer’s sexuality expert – Dr. Marty Klein, anything.

Dr. Klein, when should a woman in a new relationship have sex?

A woman on EmpowHer writes in to ask you, “I just started dating a guy and I care a lot about where our relationship is going; we are starting to get intimate. My girlfriends tell me I need to wait and hold off until the relationship develops stronger. Dr. Klein, is it better for a long-term relationship if we wait to have sex?”

Dr. Marty Klein:
Oh, I get this. I am supposed to disagree with your girlfriends and then you get to flip a coin and decide whose advice to take. Well I am not going to play that game.

I will tell you this – you know, people have sex for different reasons, and sometimes people know why they have sex and sometimes they don’t. And when people ask me when is the right time to have sex, I ask them, “Well, why are you going to have sex?”

If you’re going to have sex to prove to somebody that you love them, that’s not a good reason.

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