Photo courtesy of Patricia Lorenz
Patricia Lorenz had been married, divorced and had two annulments before raising four children as a single parent. After 27 years as a single mom, she moved to Florida, where she met plenty of widows and divorcees from the ages of 50 through their 80s. She also met quite a few men, and when she was in her 60s, Patricia got married again.
Patricia had gained a lot of experience with men over the years. Patricia has learned from her many experiences with men that "laughter is the most important ingredient to a happy, healthy relationship."
Dating can lead to what Patricia called "a whirlwind of falling in love." Men and women alike can be blinded by the excitement, the romance and the glitter of early dating. "But so often we don’t step back and ask tough questions of the person we’re dating," said Patricia.
Patricia is the author of the book, "57 Steps to Paradise: Finding Love in Midlife and Beyond." Her book is full of stories about her dating experiences.
Some of these are from her early life, but her focus is mainly on dating in middle age. She wanted to encourage people in mid-life or older who might be contemplating a second or third marriage to go for it.
Patricia graciously agreed to an interview with EmpowHER to further spread her message.
The Zero Factors
In her book, Patricia details 37 things that can wreck a relationship. She recommends that men and women talk about these things in the early stages of getting to know each other. Eating styles and habits, religious views, stress management, differences in intelligence are just a few of the zero factors.
"Yoking up with someone for the long haul takes amazingly hard work beforehand," Patricia said. "The Zero Factors are a great place to begin to make sure you’re even on the same path."
30 Questions to Ask While You’re Dating
You may not think that the early days of a romance seem like the appropriate time to ask questions about your beloved's habits, beliefs and the possible future, but Patricia says otherwise. If there are incompatibilities or deal-breakers ahead, better to be aware upfront.
Email interview with Patricia Lorenz, August 19, 2016.